[BoomerMudcat]

I want to move in with my girlfriend I have been dating for 13 months now, she lives 2 hours away, we take turns driving to each other on weekends and its starting to take a toll on us, my whole family does not want me to live there, they think im too young, im being stupid, it makes no sense, but i want to i really love her, what should i do? I currently live with my dad and i love him a lot and i think he doesnt want to see me go and im very confused about what to do. Thank you.

[MickeyCheeky]

How old are you? Do you have a job? Perhaps they are worried because they are not sure if you can handle that by yourself. i think it may be a good idea to reassure them by getting a job if don't already have one and telling them that you're serious about this if you truly are serious. Of course i am not sure what the reason may be, perhaps it'd be best to ask them some specific question if you want to know? So Sorry this is happening. i Hope everything will improve. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @BoomerMudcat, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!

[leomama]

Originally Posted by BoomerMudcat

I want to move in with my girlfriend I have been dating for 13 months now, she lives 2 hours away, we take turns driving to each other on weekends and its starting to take a toll on us, my whole family does not want me to live there, they think im too young, im being stupid, it makes no sense, but i want to i really love her, what should i do? I currently live with my dad and i love him a lot and i think he doesnt want to see me go and im very confused about what to do. Thank you.

How old are you?

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[BoomerMudcat]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

How old are you? Do you have a job? Perhaps they are worried because they are not sure if you can handle that by yourself. i think it may be a good idea to reassure them by getting a job if don't already have one and telling them that you're serious about this if you truly are serious. Of course i am not sure what the reason may be, perhaps it'd be best to ask them some specific question if you want to know? So Sorry this is happening. i Hope everything will improve. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @BoomerMudcat, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!

I am 20, thank you for your kindness ❤️

[BoomerMudcat]

Originally Posted by leomama

How old are you?

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I am 20 years old.

[Bill3]

It sounds like you have weighed your options and you want to move in with her, but you hesitate due to family opposition. Is that correct?

You are an adult and as such I think that you can and should make up your own mind.

If you move in with her, you will find out whether or not it was a good move. You won't have to wonder, you won't have to rely on the opinions of family members.

Don't let family members talk you out of doing what you have thought seriously about and know that you want to do.

[BoomerMudcat]

Originally Posted by Bill3

It sounds like you have weighed your options and you want to move in with her, but you hesitate due to family opposition. Is that correct?

You are an adult and as such I think that you can and should make up your own mind.

If you move in with her, you will find out whether or not it was a good move. You won't have to wonder, you won't have to rely on the opinions of family members.

Don't let family members talk you out of doing what you have thought seriously about and know that you want to do.

Thats exactly correct, I would enjoy if my family was supporting me during a huge transistion like this but they all are against it, besides me and my girlfriend we both want it more than anything.

[leomama]

Originally Posted by BoomerMudcat

I am 20 years old.

I am not one who would recommend moving in with a girlfriend . I have a 20 year old daughter. I had my own place at 20. That’s putting a lot on a relationship at a young age. I would recommend you get your own place instead .

[Molinit]

I agree with leomama. Get your own place in her area. I do not believe someone should leave their family's home only to move in with a significant other. You need to be on your own for a few years first.

[RoxanneToto]

I would have to agree. Also, how long have you known your girlfriend? I’d say your family might be concerned because 13 months is a relatively short time to know someone before deciding you want to move in with them. If you had been friends for, say, a few years before dating then that’s a bit different. But it is your life, nobody can know the outcome of any choice they make beforehand.
Getting your own place near her if you do move is likely to serve you better in the long run, though. It would put less strain on your relationship and if things didn’t work out, you wouldn’t be left homeless, needing to move back in with your dad or stuck with someone you didn’t want to be around.