New man and new outlook!

Hi all,

I met another man who has a similar background to mine. He is nice and understanding. He is a great chef. He has a good job. He is decent and kind. He does not demand weird sex. So far, we are doing well! We went out and clicked immediately. We talked for hours. We still talk and may go out again soon. He used to live abroad and speaks English well. I like him much. We cuddled. I am happy about him! He likes cooking and offered to cook for me. I accepted and he made Japanese food that was really delicious! We will probably meet again this weekend. He talks a lot but he asks me about myself too. So, what is wrong with him? For me, there is nothing. I'm not sure if he is bowled over about me as I am. But, he texts me often. We have a lot in common so this is important for both of us. I am hoping for the best for both of us!

I got sick and tired of men who used me for one reason or another. I think I learned my lesson and don't want to pursue men just because they look good and nothing else.

After one bad relationship or interaction after another, I was disgusted by my choices. so I thought I go with my gut instinct that if the man seems decent by what he says and not judge too much by appearance, I will have more luck. So, this time I based my choice on a similarity of backgrounds and his character. He is really decent. He paid for all of the restaurants we ate at. He also paid for the food he made meals from. So, I would like to reciprocate in some way. I might buy him a gift he likes eventually.

I think I got lucky because I met him on a dating app.

So, we shall see what happens next! We are still getting to know each other so anything can happen still.

Thank you all for your insight and advice!

I am very happy that you have found a healthy relationship. Touchwood may he be the one for you!

Thank you all for your support!

So far it is going well. He and I text and call each other. We talk daily. He is decent and talks a lot about himself. l listen and he is supportive of me too. I like him a lot and hope he likes me too. He is very active with his job and also does volunteer work helping young people. He is very decent. After getting only bad apples, I wonder if I am dreaming. I am lucky to have met a decent man finally. He is not perfect in one aspect- he wants to fulfill his parents' expectations sometimes. I told him to find satisfaction from within but he worries what his parents think at times. So, I told him to be proud and confident of himself. He says that he does not worry too much about other's expectations too much anymore and tells them to mind their own business. I am happy for him! So, besides this, he is perfect in my eyes. Maybe, I should not worry about his wanting to please his parents still, but he is middle-aged and should think for himself, not for his parents, I believe.

We have a relationship that is good. We talk and support each other. So, he is a good person with a kind heart. I really admire him and respect him. I feel good about him.

Sometimes, life is not bad. I realize after so many bad men, a good man is refreshing and fun to be with as well. I feel blessed. I told him I am off the dating app site. But, I am not sure he is off the site as well but believe he is. He talks to me daily and is very attentive to me.

Thus, things are going well so far. No surprises so far. I am relaxed and happy about him. He gives me no stress!

In a nutshell, he is not weird nor asks for strange sex. We get along well. We are both happy so far!!

Nobody is perfect, and trying to fulfill parents' expectations is not a bad thing, as long as those expectations are reasonable. The more important thing is, he affects your life in a positive way. I really hope your relationship will blossom into something beautiful.

So, we met again. I paid for lunch and he paid for dessert and coffee. He is really sweet! I really adore him. He talks a lot yet listens to me. We are doing well. I feel this is the first time where I feel happy about a man in my life. He does not ask me anything weird nor takes advantage of me. I feel blessed. I think we will last for some time if not for a long time. I finally am happy about someone who respects me and talks to me as if I was a person, not an object to abuse. I feel extremely happy. We get along really well. I think after all the bad apples, I can appreciate a good apple. He is very successful in his job too and is doing volunteer work. His actions speak louder than words. He cooks too. I think we will be together hopefully forever. But, I should not take anything for granted. He is free and so am I. We are not committed to each other for now. Maybe, one day we will still be with each other and enjoying each other's company as we do now. I don't know for sure. I will take it one day at a time. Life is beautiful when there is someone who cares and adores me as much as I care and adore him. No more sorrow for now. He is so cute too. When I think of him, I smile. I don't know why it took me so long to appreciate someone who is nice to me. I must have hated myself before. Now, I am really happy that it brings tears of joy to my eyes. I feel I found someone special for now. Life is charming!

Glad you found love!!!

I did not find love but a person who wanted free English lessons!!! LOL, who needs this! So, I let him go. He was ok but said he was not interested in me physically and just wanted to be friends. OK!! But, he wanted a free English teacher, so I said no thank you and let him go. At least he was honest about his interest in me. But, I found him quite materialistic. As a result, we did not have much in common. I was not hurt but did not want to waste my time on him. There is plenty of fish in the sea.

I am doing well now and have not been with a man for over a month!! I feel great!! I am focusing on finding another job. Life is an adventure. I am happier than before. I don't need a man, but jobs to keep me busy/