[ladytiger]

Hi everyone. I've been thinking a lot lately about friendships and women. I'm a 35 yr old child free woman. Backstory, 4 years ago I was single and at a party.

A woman from that party remember me and friended me on fb which I did but don't remember her. Fast forward, we got close (yes we went 9n a date and made out a bit). She's almost 48 and married, yes I have met her hubby she has met my bf. Everybody knows.

Fast forward again, she told me she wants 24/7 talking from me. I'm sorry that's not how friendships work. You don't get to demand that no matter how much you like the person. Then I found out a little thing about her marriage which is full of drama.

I stay out of it. About communicating, I told her if I have something to say I'll say something she said that's talking on your terms. Ok I just saw gaslighting right there. I'm still best friends with my friend from high school we don't talk much buy she doesn't throw a fit about us not talking a lot.

I don't know but women act like I'm their girlfriend spouse or therapist. Like since I'm a woman it feels like I'm being put in a man's position, like being a white knight to go rescue them. My bf knows about how she is I told him I see why men walk away etc it's beyond ridiculous for a grown woman to act like daddy's little princess.

Also, we have hung out. Tell me why does she have my address yet I don't have hers? What is she hiding? I have offered tompick her up one time to go to the gym with me and I got so many excuses. A mutual friend of ours told me him and her tried to date but it was one thing after another and too much drama going on.

I find her flakey and fake. I see why our friend doesn't want to be bothered by her. She complained to me last year about how he doesn't chat with her that much. I said he's grown and he doesn't owe you a daily conversation.

Women like her reminds me too much like my mom. Very codependent, I don't find these women to befriend, they find me. She's pissed at me I don't care. She wanted to go to the gym she only went with me once and made more excuses I'm done. Don't care if she unfriend me, I'm sure I'm the evil one in her book.

My friendships with women seem to always last a year or two then poof no longer friends. My god the red flags show up so early in the friendship. Where are the women who have it together!? Can we be besties?

I just needed to vent and reevaluate things. Any suggestions if any would be appreciated.

[Labhradha22]

I don't know about the 24/7 talking thing.
That's the most important thing I want from my friends, etc
It's hard to find.
But some people need it.
I'm lucky my ex is back.
We have 24/7 talking in an online romantic relationship.

[ladytiger]

Originally Posted by Labhradha22

I don't know about the 24/7 talking thing.
That's the most important thing I want from my friends, etc
It's hard to find.
But some people need it.
I'm lucky my ex is back.
We have 24/7 talking in an online romantic relationship.

She complains about her 19 and 17 yr old sons. Who wants to hear that all the time? I don't see how some people need 24/7 talking there isn't enough time for all of that.

What I want from friends is to not be codependent and so damn clingy towards me like ewww