[bychance]

Am I just mean? My husband is one who likes to try to make "jokes" all the time. Sometimes I feel like he just opens his mouth to hear himself talk because the things that come out of his mouth just make no sense to reply. So I have tried just responding to his sarcastic remarks or dumb things with a response that would be obvious if what he was saying was actually worth responding to. For example, he may say, "Oh...would you like me to get you some stinky cheese?" if I say I'm nauseous or something. That may be a bad example at the moment but shows how he likes to be annoying. Or if I ask if he would rub my neck, he says, " Oh, you would like to rub my balls?' But it is seriously all day long. Smart *** comments or jokes that are not funny at all. I find I don't even bother to answer him and just ignore him. Or I tell him it is just not funny, but he says I have no sense of humor and am negative. But as I try to ignore him, more annoyance builds up day after day. How can I deal with this better? Polite fake laugh?

[Rive.]

How to deal with this better? Tell him he is not being funny and to cut the crap.

That is not being mean, that is 'teaching' your husband to grow up. And of course, he will blame you not having a sense of humour or you being too sensitive etc. That's what they do.

Honestly his comments are pretty immature, insensitive and rude (my neck hurts => rub my balls?!; I'm feeling nauseous => want some stinky cheese?!).

I would set my boundaries and tell him to stop, polite but firm. If he doesn't stop, remove yourself to show you mean it and don't want to interact with an immature man-boy, who shows no respect.

[divine1966]

Some people always joke and make comments like this to mask true self. If they always joke, no one would know their true nature. They never want to be real. I honestly can’t stand it.

No, polite fake laugh will enable him to continue. Tell him to stop immediately. He either needs to stop on his own or seek help but he cannot continue with this craziness

[Have Hope]

Oh Lordy. His jokes are super immature and juvenile. You're not being mean. I would be blunt and tell him to grow the F up.

[bychance]

I try to tell him. Yes and I try to reply to is comment as if it was a real worthwhile comment with blandness. I try to ignore. I don't even want him around most days. Even told him this!