[brodyshawn]

So my ex and I broke up 3 weeks ago. The relationship was getting toxic and we needed some time apart. Not gonna lie, I was the cause of most of it. I suffer from adhd, anxiety, and emotional problems. I let a lot of those issues out on her and became a bit abusive. However I am in therapy now getting help. After the split, we started hanging out every single day. We went to the movies, got food, and went on dates together. Only thing different from before was we weren’t kissing or having physical contact. We were there for each other emotionally, helped each other out, and did everything else we did while dating.

We stopped talking for a few days because it was getting too hard to be just friends and I wanted more. But then we started talking again and unfortunately 2 days later we got in an argument. Basically she did something mean to me when I was expressing my feelings about my deceased dog. I said things in a joking way which made her regret feeling bad for me. That wasn’t cool. I didn’t say anything bad just didn’t take it seriously I cope by joking. I kind of got wordy and said a lot over text and then called her out for texting someone that I know (he isn’t a close friend but I’ve know him for a bit). The reason I knew she was texting him is because she posted a photo of his text conversation on her private snap chat story (with about 30 ppl) and pretty much made fun of him. I wasn’t jealous because she obviously doesn’t care for him but I told her that wasn’t a nice post of her. She ended up blocking me and thinks it’s weird that I cared and called me a stalker.

Well she didn’t block my snap chat so I tried explaining that I wasn’t stalking or being jealous but I just thought that what she did to this guy wasn’t cool. She said to leave her alone or she’s calling security. I let her be and she didn’t block my snap.

I feel like she did this in the heat of the moment because she was tired of arguing and isn’t actually going to call security. Its been 3 days and I kind of want to clear things up with a quick snap text but I don’t want her to get overwhelmed. I was gonna say a short apology for our argument and for being creepy about the snap chat story she posted. I don’t know if I should but I just want to make things right and maybe talk to her again. I love her so much and I can’t just let her go so easily. We were doing so well and I could feel things falling back into place before this happened. I just want to talk again and try to rework it.

[divine1966]

It sounds like way too much drama. How old are you two? It sounds like perhaps you are minors? I’d focus on doing well in school and make future career plans and stop hanging out with this person for the time being. Like I said way too much drama

[Breaking Dawn]

I have an idea for you, for whatever it's worth to you. You can try it or reject it:

Leave her alone for a while. Let her have freedom to do her behaviors without reacting. If she loves you, after not hearing from you for a while, she'll begin to miss you. If much time goes by without hearing from her, send her a little note through the regular mail. Just say, I miss you. How are you? And sign it: Love, (your name). And patiently wait for her to think & respond whenever she's emotionally ready. If you're lucky & you get another chance, show her how much you love her with kindness & let the relationship be an enjoyable journey for the both of you.

[Molinit]

Leave it alone. Walk away. Don't try to engage her again. Move on. Drama city.

[Rive.]

I agree with Breaking Dawn, give her space.

If you acknowledge being "the cause of most of it" and having been "a bit abusive", then she needs time. She needs time to sort out her emotional wounds. So, let her breathe.

And I would work on your personal issues so that there is no repeat (e.g. abuse, toxic relationship, being the cause of the upset etc.) IF she were to give you another chance. Even if she did not come back to you, it would help you in other relationships, so you don't repeat the same pattern of behaviour with other partners.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Breaking Dawn

I have an idea for you, for whatever it's worth to you. You can try it or reject it:

Leave her alone for a while. Let her have freedom to do her behaviors without reacting. If she loves you, after not hearing from you for a while, she'll begin to miss you. If much time goes by without hearing from her, send her a little note through the regular mail. Just say, I miss you. How are you? And sign it: Love, (your name). And patiently wait for her to think & respond whenever she's emotionally ready. If you're lucky & you get another chance, show her how much you love her with kindness & let the relationship be an enjoyable journey for the both of you.