[Amethyst_Stargazer]

This guy who I was in a relationship with is giving me mixed signals. I don't think he's going to change. He broke up with me, telling me he can't be in a relationship at the moment, because of work and issues going on in his life. He pursued me and wanted a serious relationship... or so I thought. I truly trusted him too, but now I feel stupid for trusting him.

When I went up to visit him everything was fine, but once I got home, he broke up with me a week later and told me he's just too "busy because of work" which seems like an excuse to me. I feel like it's possible he used me. Because I heard through a friend, he did something similiar to someone else.

At the moment I'm grieving and very vulnerable right now due to me grieving over my brother's suicide. He was close friends with my brother too. He honestly confuses me by his behavior. Everyone who has talked to me, told me he shouldn't have pursued me in the first place. I completely agree with this, and I'm heartbroken about it... because I liked him a lot.

He's giving me lots of mixed signals, he's very hot and cold towards me and I did nothing wrong. He continues to send me messages over Facebook and is very friendly towards me. This was a few days even after him breaking up with me, and telling me he can't be in a relationship right now, but maybe in the future he'd like to pursue me again. I think he's sort of giving me false hope, because I feel something is off, I feel it in my gut. I'm even getting anxiety about it and feeling sick to my stomach about the entire situation.

I continue to keep crying over this due to him messaging me. I'm not chasing after him or reaching out to him, let me remind you. Just wanted to get this out, because I'm so heartbroken over this. I think I may have to tell him to stop reaching out to me, because it's messing with me emotionally. Has anyone else been through something similiar? Please let me know. Thank you. It's been a rough week for me and I've been crying a lot over this entire situation. I'm already stressed out enough with me grieving over my brother, I don't wanna deal with this on top of it too.

[Have Hope]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother, and for your current heartache and tears. You are certainly going through a lot right now.

Yes, I had someone do something similar to me - at least in terms of still pursuing contact after breaking up with me. He certainly is sending mixed signals. He wants contact, but not a relationship. He doesn't want you now, but he may later on. This is not fair to you. Yes, I would tell him to stop communicating with you. You can even unfriend him or block him on Facebook, if you want to. But he needs to let you heal and that involves no contact with him.

And yes, he's playing with you emotionally - even if it's unintentional, he is. I would not want to put up with that. It's just not fair to you.

I wish you healing and comfort. You don't need this, especially after the tragic loss of your brother.

[Breaking Dawn]

I agree with Have Hope. I'm sending wishes filled with healing energy from the cosmos.

[Rive.]

He's giving me lots of mixed signals, he's very hot and cold towards me and I did nothing wrong.

It's not about you or anything you did. It's about him and who he is. He is showing you his true colors.

He continues to send me messages over Facebook and is very friendly towards me. This was a few days even after him breaking up with me, and telling me he can't be in a relationship right now, but maybe in the future he'd like to pursue me again.

Block him. This sends confusing messages as he keeps playing you emotionally and letting you dangle until *he* decides if he wants something more.

You are struggling enough with your recent loss. This guy is only playing you - block him and move on so you at least have a chance to heal.

[Bill3]

I'm very sorry for your loss.

I agree that blocking him and moving on from him is the best course of action.

I think he's sort of giving me false hope

I completely agree with you.

[Open Eyes]

You are giving this person too much power. Detach and look for someone healthier.

[downandlonely]

Someone that pursues an emotionally vulnerable woman after her brother's suicide is a true creep, in my opinion. Did he show any interest in you while your brother was still alive? If not, seems that he wants to take advantage of you sexually and doesn't really care.

I agree with the others that blocking him is best.

[divine1966]

I am very sorry for your loss. Block this person. He’s not worth your time

[Mendingmysoul]

Yep,block his *****.Go complete no contact.He sure is giving false hope.He is no good for you.I am sorry for your loss.You need time to heal properly from your brother's death.Hugs.

[AzulOscuro]

I know it hurts but you have to care of yourself, it’s a win win situation in medium long term. So, if you are heartbroken because of his attitude (No matter if he’s young, or if he’s having problems to commit himself or whatever) if it’s harmful for you, it’s all said.

I know you are feeling very sad and despaired but sometimes it’s needed to go through hell to get the Heaven. You will grow stronger because you DID stand up for yourself.

[Rose76]

I'm very sorry about the loss of your brother. This guy who pretended to want to comfort you is a narcissistic creep. So he might want to pursue you at some future date? Gee, doesn't that give a young woman something to live for! He thinks quite a lot of himself . . . based on what? He's no great catch, believe me.

It's good that you are not reaching out to him. Try to ignore his texts and Facebook messages. Adjust your FB settings so he cannot see what you post. It would be good if you stopped following him. Don't take the bait, if he tries to find out if you still miss him. His ego might want to feed on that.

You gave your heart, sincerely. He was just taking you for a test drive. He's not worth what you have to offer. It's good that you have the support of others who see through him. Mixed signals don't deserve your attention.

Tend to your heart and the grief you are experiencing. Time does lessen the pain. Lean on friends who care about you. Life has much more in store for you. Good things will happen. You'll be available for them by disconnecting from this guy.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Amethyst_Stargazer

This guy who I was in a relationship with is giving me mixed signals. I don't think he's going to change. He broke up with me, telling me he can't be in a relationship at the moment, because of work and issues going on in his life. He pursued me and wanted a serious relationship... or so I thought. I truly trusted him too, but now I feel stupid for trusting him. :(

When I went up to visit him everything was fine, but once I got home, he broke up with me a week later and told me he's just too "busy because of work" which seems like an excuse to me. I feel like it's possible he used me. Because I heard through a friend, he did something similiar to someone else.

At the moment I'm grieving and very vulnerable right now due to me grieving over my brother's suicide. He was close friends with my brother too. He honestly confuses me by his behavior. Everyone who has talked to me, told me he shouldn't have pursued me in the first place. I completely agree with this, and I'm heartbroken about it... because I liked him a lot.

He's giving me lots of mixed signals, he's very hot and cold towards me and I did nothing wrong. He continues to send me messages over Facebook and is very friendly towards me. This was a few days even after him breaking up with me, and telling me he can't be in a relationship right now, but maybe in the future he'd like to pursue me again. I think he's sort of giving me false hope, because I feel something is off, I feel it in my gut. I'm even getting anxiety about it and feeling sick to my stomach about the entire situation.

I continue to keep crying over this due to him messaging me. I'm not chasing after him or reaching out to him, let me remind you. Just wanted to get this out, because I'm so heartbroken over this. I think I may have to tell him to stop reaching out to me, because it's messing with me emotionally. Has anyone else been through something similiar? Please let me know. Thank you. It's been a rough week for me and I've been crying a lot over this entire situation. I'm already stressed out enough with me grieving over my brother, I don't wanna deal with this on top of it too. :sob:

I am very sorry for your loss. I lost my brother-in-law to suicide. My ex - boyfriend did the same thing to me giving me mixed signal and whenever i start to get over him he came back into my life. I finally stood up to him by letting him know it wasn't okay for him to called me on the phone asked me to go out on a date and then stood me up and then go off on me because I chose to end a friendship with a old friend from high school. It was about standing up to him.