[jesyka]

I met a new friend a few months ago & she’s something ne that I have a few things in common with. Her stories are interesting. The problem is that she rarely ever asks me anything about myself or how I’m doing.

She always talks about her past bad experiences with other people like her psycho roommate, her flaky b.f, her mom, her job, her crazy friends or her ex, etc…

And she is now ignoring me but I’m trying to be understanding since she is going through a lit now. See my last post on here.

I don’t understand though how she has the time to constantly post videos & other stuff online everday but not respond to a joke or short how are u doing message on here. She was posting videos everyday on tik tok until she deleted it recently.

She did text me a few weeks ago late at night but then stopped doing do after I toldher that we need to sleep. She then typed goodnight with an exclamation point. I texted her today asking her about her sick uncle & she ignored me

She is a Scorpio if that helps. I’m a Cancer. I heard thar they’re spiteful, sensitive, & vindictive. Is that true?

I’m sick of being ignored. What should I do? Why doesn’t she care about me at all? I feel like I’m her therapist tbh. Her behavior is annoying, rude, & selfish.

[Have Hope]

Dump her. It's not worth the drama and she's a newish friend. A "friend" of three months is not exactly a long standing friendship.

[Rive.]

Well, cancerians are known for being pessimistic, manipulative, nagging, moody, irrational and holding on to grudges. Is that true?

[downandlonely]

I don't think her sign has anything to do with it.

But from what you say, your friendship is not a priority for her. So it makes sense to stop interacting with her, since you aren't getting anything from the relationship.

[jesyka]

Originally Posted by Have Hope

Dump her. It's not worth the drama and she's a newish friend. A "friend" of three months is not exactly a long standing friendship.

I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt for now. If she keeps this up though, then I’ll need to find other people who are more caring & considerate of my time.

[jesyka]

Originally Posted by downandlonely

I don't think her sign has anything to do with it.

But from what you say, your friendship is not a priority for her. So it makes sense to stop interacting with her, since you aren't getting anything from the relationship.

That’s true. You’re right about what you said. I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt for now. She’s going through a lot.

[AzulOscuro]

Originally Posted by jesyka

That’s true. You’re right about what you said. I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt for now. She’s going through a lot.

In regards to your (I have troubles to call her already a friend because of the few time you have been knowing each other) but commonly talking, your friend seems pretty volatile and self-centrered.
Your question is very appropriated why do you still are a friend with this person?
I wouldn’t give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe, like an acquaintance to see how things going, keeping always a distance for you not to involve a lot, since your experience so far has been very negative.

Originally Posted by Rive.

Well, cancerians are known for being pessimistic, manipulative, nagging, moody, irrational and holding on to grudges. Is that true?

Astrology is a load of nonsense, you can't really go by "cancer is this and that" or Aries or Taurus or whatever, how someone turns out has nothing to do with where the planets all was

I am Gemini and Geminis are supposed to be the life and soul of parties, I have never liked being in crowds, so you can see why I am saying it's nonsense

[jesyka]

Originally Posted by AzulOscuro

In regards to your (I have troubles to call her already a friend because of the few time you have been knowing each other) but commonly talking, your friend seems pretty volatile and self-centrered.
Your question is very appropriated why do you still are a friend with this person?
I wouldn’t give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe, like an acquaintance to see how things going, keeping always a distance for you not to involve a lot, since your experience so far has been very negative.

You’re probably right about what you said. She was never volatile. She’s just acting weird. I haven’t heard from her since 8/14 when. I kindly took her to see one of her favorite bands. I paid for the tickets. It was an early birthday gift. She had fun & everything seemed fine.

She told me that her uncle might die in a month & how she might move out to help him & how she’ll get his house.

If she was upset over anything then she hid it well as she was talking to people, singing, & dancing. She sent me videos & a pic of us the next day.

Since then she’s been quiet but active on Instagram. I asked her aabout him & she ignored my message for a week so far.

She obviously went to a club last night. She has had a lot of experiences with very weird messed up people in the past who took hard drugs, did illegal stuff, lied to, almost (trigger warning)….

Gang raped by make ‘friends’ once, been in a bad marriage, bankrupt, backstabbed at work from a jealous competive friend who wanted her job,
had her stuff stolen& is attacked once by her psycho ex roommate who she had a hard time evicting due to some section 8 tenant laws.

I think she is selfish & self absorbed at times, but then how can she be that bad if she is caring for her uncle? Her behavior confuses me.

It’s almost as if she only likes people who mistreat her like her b.f who is constantly flaking out on her. Why would anyone prefer to be around people who mistreat them it seems like?

I just know that I feel like I’m being ignored for maybe not taking her late night texts. I know she’ll probably ignore my messages, so I’ll need to talk to her in person to see if there’s any logical explanation for this other than her being distraught.

I’ll give her a chance to explain herself & improve before cutting her off. She was better before the situation with her uncke came up. She rarely ever asked me a thing about myself though. I’m not OK with that. Friendshios shouldn’t be one sided.

[jesyka]

Originally Posted by willowtigger

Astrology is a load of nonsense, you can't really go by "cancer is this and that" or Aries or Taurus or whatever, how someone turns out has nothing to do with where the planets all was

I am Gemini and Geminis are supposed to be the life and soul of parties, I have never liked being in crowds, so you can see why I am saying it's nonsense

I do think that there’s some truth to astrology.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by willowtigger

Astrology is a load of nonsense, you can't really go by "cancer is this and that" or Aries or Taurus or whatever, how someone turns out has nothing to do with where the planets all was

I am Gemini and Geminis are supposed to be the life and soul of parties, I have never liked being in crowds, so you can see why I am saying it's nonsense

This poster wasn’t seriously saying that at all.

OP said that “all scorpios are this and that”. So this poster replied kind of like “what if someone said all cancers are this or that”, kind of like “how would it make you feel if someone said this or that”.

I am sure this poster you are quoting wasn’t saying all cancers are bad whatsoever.

[jesyka]

OK, forget that zi even mentioned astrology. Anyways, my gut tell me thar something isn’t right. If she doesn’t provide me with a good explanation ir she continues toignore me for a long time, then I’m cutting her loose as I deserve better then this. Real friends should be kind, considerate, thoughtful m, there for you, and she is just sll about herself usually, ugh!

Originally Posted by jesyka

You’re probably right about what you said. She was never volatile. She’s just acting weird. I haven’t heard from her since 8/14 when. I kindly took her to see one of her favorite bands. I paid for the tickets. It was an early birthday gift. She had fun & everything seemed fine.

She told me that her uncle might die in a month & how she might move out to help him & how she’ll get his house.

If she was upset over anything then she hid it well as she was talking to people, singing, & dancing. She sent me videos & a pic of us the next day.

Since then she’s been quiet but active on Instagram. I asked her aabout him & she ignored my message for a week so far.

She obviously went to a club last night. She has had a lot of experiences with very weird messed up people in the past who took hard drugs, did illegal stuff, lied to, almost (trigger warning)….

Gang raped by make ‘friends’ once, been in a bad marriage, bankrupt, backstabbed at work from a jealous competive friend who wanted her job,
had her stuff stolen& is attacked once by her psycho ex roommate who she had a hard time evicting due to some section 8 tenant laws.

I think she is selfish & self absorbed at times, but then how can she be that bad if she is caring for her uncle? Her behavior confuses me.

It’s almost as if she only likes people who mistreat her like her b.f who is constantly flaking out on her. Why would anyone prefer to be around people who mistreat them it seems like?

I just know that I feel like I’m being ignored for maybe not taking her late night texts. I know she’ll probably ignore my messages, so I’ll need to talk to her in person to see if there’s any logical explanation for this other than her being distraught.

I’ll give her a chance to explain herself & improve before cutting her off. She was better before the situation with her uncke came up. She rarely ever asked me a thing about myself though. I’m not OK with that. Friendshios shouldn’t be one sided.

This post suggests she might have very low self esteem? The whole being-around-people-who-mistreat-her thing?

(i am not a expert)

[jesyka]

Perhaps you’re right. She acts like she’s very confident though. I’m not that confident, but not so confident that I won’t speak up. I often do at times. I’m not mean, just honest.