[black-roses]

It feels like I have to justify my choices to my own sister which is even worse then doing it to randoms. To say that I haven't learnt how to clean up well at home isn't a fair comparison because my mum redoes everything I do and doesn't allow me to make mistakes. My sister is hurtful and I believe skills are learnt but not to even give me chance sucks. She insists it's better for me try and get disability payments well I tried 2 times it's not gonna happen it's just wasting time. Also to suggest I go back to floristry when last time I went I spent $3,000 and then they wouldn't let me stay is just insulting to me. Oh but why won't you do childcare well you said it's dangerous to kids but I guess it doesn't affect her reputation so why would she care. This whole idea that I'll ruin her reputation because we lookalike is insane we don't even look that much a like. I have a different body shape as I am obese and have long hair. Nevermind my sadness that losing weight is hard and I can't afford much but then add to the sadness that my own sister is not very nice or supportive to me. I honestly just don't even want to talk to her or have her near me. I mean it's just adds onto the pain. You would think she would have an idea of how much it sucked education for me 5 courses removed which means 5 years of wasted study but no not even any kind of compassion or an thought about how her words affect me. Add to that she expects me to have compassion because she has a child but I didn't tell her to open her legs honestly she's made bad choices being with a man she doesn't like but I've never thrown that in her face it's just like. Some people just don't even care or can own up to how much they suck when it comes to how they treat people. I have owned up that I am lazy but clearly that's never enough for this family. Seriously why bother begging me to not do the course like I never interfered with your life so don't with mine. Honestly I even think of putting a restraining order on her because I'm tired of hearing about it.

[Yaowen]

I'm sorry you are in that unhappy family situation. I don't have any siblings so I don't know the kinds of problems that go with that. Your situation seems so unhappy and nightmarish. Wish I knew what to say that would help.

[Embracingtruth]

People who live in denial of their own problems, like your sister's situation, often focus on what they perceive as faults of others to make themselves feel better. Ignore the shade she casts your way and do what feels right for you. When your sister engages you in a negative way, just ignore what she's saying. Remember YOU are the gate keeper to all words (and their meaning) that reach your heart. Keep her words out. Let her rant all she wants. You can let those words bounce off the surface and float off into oblivion where they belong. Only embrace words and sentiments you believe in. Leave the ugliness to the outside world. Your heart deserves better.

[Rastana]

"People who live in denial of their own problems, like your sister's situation, often focus on what they perceive as faults of others to make themselves feel better. "
Perfectly said! My brother is also completely unsupportive of me as well. It is hurtful, frustrating and feels downright unfair. But we need to understand why they feel that way so we can let go of it. It has nothing to do with what we are doing, it has everything to do with what they are doing or perhaps NOT doing in their lives. I've been on disability for 4 years, I would love to get painting again and do commission work if possible. Zero support from him. Like it's completely unfeasible for me because his wife won't sell her stuff on Etsy due to taxes, etc. And they have kids to put through college, etc. I have 3 boys, they are well taken care of on my disability income. They lack nothing. 'I have to work,' he says. Wow. Disgusting. I don't need loads of money to be happy. He has been in a miserable job for 22 years and hates his career. I'd rather be 'poor' and happy than making 6 figures and complaining about not being happy. Keep your head up, you do you.