Friend who cause trauma wants to meet up after 4 years not talking to each other.

AppleLime · Dec 23, 2022, 12:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Apogee

Let them go, let them go, and again I say let them go! They're sink holes on your path to good mental health. They're energy vampires and spirit crushers. Ask yourself how much more you'll allow her/they to take from you. They're pretty much players. Life is too short and unpredictable to waste a minute on that stuff. I've got a feeling you already know kicking that whole business to curb is one of the best things you'll ever do for yourself. You got the power so get on up and use it. It's really awesome you posted your question because I think it resonates with a lot of people. Sending you hugs.

Oh wow thank you for replying back, that was very encouraging and heart warming.

I still blame myself. Especailly the Sophie person who didn't want to be friends again. After 1 year of apologsing to her back in 2017 and then towards the end of 2018, liked one of her Instagram art pictures and she blocked me.

It was only in 2019 probably because I kept harassing Kare about Sophie that Kate agreed to send that apology to Sophie.

I was left dissapointed because I sent her this long message saying I'm sorry and try to put myself in her shoes. And then she just sends this short message that's not very depth at all.

What bothers me is that I have never meet a person who have never forgiven someone.
At first I thought she forgave me but maybe in 2021 Kate was like "She will only forgive you if you are sorry for everything "
I felt so hurt ,shocked and confused.
I said to Kate "But I said that apology"
and Kate response was "oh yeah"
This was all by messager by the way.

I have never meet Kate since 2017. But I do notice how they hang with Sophie many times.
I've notice that Kate changed her tone and stopped talking to me much since she sent that apology message to Sophie.

I thought if I could figure out if Sophie is a narccism then some how that will lift off the guilt I feel and carry with me.

I assume she is narc because how it seems she lacks empathy. For example when I told her how my grandma died, she just carried on with the converstation she was perviously talking about. Then later on during that year she came to me by messager saying how her online friend died and she was shocked. I felt resentment and thought why should I be their for you if you weren't their when my grandma died.

Question what is a energy vampires and spirit crushers?
I have heard engery vampires and how they use people engery and you feel competetly drained.

However I haven't heard of spirit crushes.
Could you explain them to me as well how can you notice them early on so it's not years of it?

Buffy01 · Dec 23, 2022, 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by AppleLime

Oh wow thank you for replying back, that was very encouraging and heart warming.

I still blame myself. Especailly the Sophie person who didn't want to be friends again. After 1 year of apologsing to her back in 2017 and then towards the end of 2018, liked one of her Instagram art pictures and she blocked me.

It was only in 2019 probably because I kept harassing Kare about Sophie that Kate agreed to send that apology to Sophie.

I was left dissapointed because I sent her this long message saying I'm sorry and try to put myself in her shoes. And then she just sends this short message that's not very depth at all.

What bothers me is that I have never meet a person who have never forgiven someone.
At first I thought she forgave me but maybe in 2021 Kate was like "She will only forgive you if you are sorry for everything "
I felt so hurt ,shocked and confused.
I said to Kate "But I said that apology"
and Kate response was "oh yeah"
This was all by messager by the way.

I have never meet Kate since 2017. But I do notice how they hang with Sophie many times.
I've notice that Kate changed her tone and stopped talking to me much since she sent that apology message to Sophie.

I thought if I could figure out if Sophie is a narccism then some how that will lift off the guilt I feel and carry with me.

I assume she is narc because how it seems she lacks empathy. For example when I told her how my grandma died, she just carried on with the converstation she was perviously talking about. Then later on during that year she came to me by messager saying how her online friend died and she was shocked. I felt resentment and thought why should I be their for you if you weren't their when my grandma died.

Question what is a energy vampires and spirit crushers?
I have heard engery vampires and how they use people engery and you feel competetly drained.

However I haven't heard of spirit crushes.
Could you explain them to me as well how can you notice them early on so it's not years of it?

I’m sorry that you are struggling.

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