[Stronglady1]

Issues with my boyfriend's youngest brother,harsh towards me.All started when I met his family,his parents,sister and older brother were fed up with him and on my side.Asked my boyfriend why he is dating a midget in a rude way.In the dwarfism community,midget is an offensive word and I do not like that word at all.I was hurt hearing that.Good thing is his parents,older brother and sister defended me whom I get along with.They support us dating and learned about my pituturitary dwarfism very well.They are also fed up with him on this including my boyfriend,I am a normal person like anyone else

[Skeezyks]

Thanks for sharing this. "There's always one in every crowd", as the saying goes. Glad you had some strong defenders. Best wishes...

[Yaowen]

I'm also very sorry this happened to you. People sometimes can be terribly insensitive and cruel. Wish I knew what to say that would help.

[Stronglady1]

Still goes on at times,fed up.He needs a wake up call.His parents leave a stool around for me around when I visit and he hides it.His mom bought it for this reason.

[rechu]

That is terrible. I am sorry you are dealing with this. Has your boyfriend tried to talk to him? Are there ways to get together with other family members without him around, or does he live with their parents? I would try to limit contact, especially if others are not stepping in to defend you.


I went through something sort of similar with my ex. His youngest brother and his wife did not like me because I am an expat living in this country. They wanted to see him with a more traditional Chilean woman They would do things like call me and talk to me in a stereotypical accent of a native English speaker trying to speak Spanish. I am fluent in Spanish and do not even talk like that. At family events they were also rude. Finally, I limited the times I would have to see them. I would go to the larger family events where I could just say a quick hi and spend the rest of the time socializing with other people, but I would not go to their house or other small things where they would be.


He was the youngest and always babied by the rest of the family all of his life, even though by then he was an adult with a wife and child. He didn't seem to want to change, so there was not much else I could do.

Ironically, some months after I started limiting contact he had the nerve to ask me to help him with his English because he was getting bad grades in an English class he was taking. I refused to do it.

I hope things get better!

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by Stronglady1

Still goes on at times,fed up.He needs a wake up call.His parents leave a stool around for me around when I visit and he hides it.His mom bought it for this reason.

This is infuriating. Im so sorry.

[Stronglady1]

Originally Posted by rechu

That is terrible. I am sorry you are dealing with this. Has your boyfriend tried to talk to him? Are there ways to get together with other family members without him around, or does he live with their parents? I would try to limit contact, especially if others are not stepping in to defend you.


I went through something sort of similar with my ex. His youngest brother and his wife did not like me because I am an expat living in this country. They wanted to see him with a more traditional Chilean woman They would do things like call me and talk to me in a stereotypical accent of a native English speaker trying to speak Spanish. I am fluent in Spanish and do not even talk like that. At family events they were also rude. Finally, I limited the times I would have to see them. I would go to the larger family events where I could just say a quick hi and spend the rest of the time socializing with other people, but I would not go to their house or other small things where they would be.


He was the youngest and always babied by the rest of the family all of his life, even though by then he was an adult with a wife and child. He didn't seem to want to change, so there was not much else I could do.

Ironically, some months after I started limiting contact he had the nerve to ask me to help him with his English because he was getting bad grades in an English class he was taking. I refused to do it.

I hope things get better!

Boyfriend has talked him and has reminded him I am like any normal person

[Stronglady1]

Originally Posted by unaluna

This is infuriating. Im so sorry.

It is and his mom has an older brother with dwarfism that uses it too.He is disrespected by my boyfriend's younger brother too at times..His mom's brother and I get along very well.