[jnoah]

Ive been talking/hanging out with this girl for about 2 months now. Weve hung out 5 times and I havent been able to make a move. Im still a virgin and am super nervous in the moment. Theres been plenty of opportunities and the vibe is there but I cant make the move. Also Im not a big texter so we only talk every 2-3 days and our conversations are pretty short. Sometimes we will have a longer conversation over text but its pretty rare. Mostly when I message her its to hang out but I have recently been trying to message her more.

I tried to make plans with her last week but unfortunately we were both busy but she told me she would love to after her trip.

I want to make plans with her this weekend since shes coming back from a trip and I want to see her again before Valentines Day. Ideally if we link before valentines we could make plans for valentines. I dont want to jump straight to asking her to do something for Valentines because I think it might be a little weird considering I havent even kissed her yet. I texted her Tuesday and this was the exchange. She has always responded well to gifs especially of Kermit so I thought this would work.

She didnt reply but I dont think its a big deal because shes on a trip with her friends and I didnt really move the conversation forward with my message. But I want to know if I should push for plans this weekend. I do want to see her and want to be persistent but I dont want to come off as pushy or desperate.

Should I ask her again on Saturday/Sunday if shes doing anything/feeling spontaneous. Shes a very attractive girl and if I dont make a move someone else will. Lastly, if this weekend doesnt work out should I directly ask her to be my valentines/do something on Valentines Day?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[Open Eyes]

What is your goal with her? Is your interest mostly about having sex with someone?

[jnoah]

I see a potential relationship with her and would like to pursue it. I initially reached out to reconnect as friends but over time I started to like her and feel like there is a mutual interest there. I bring up that I have not made a move yet because everyone I talk to in real life tells me if I dont someone else will. Also, that she will think I am not interested in her romantically.

At the moment I am not sure how to approach asking to see her this weekend. She drives back late Friday night so I was planning on asking her Saturday if she would like to do anything that night or Sunday night. I messaged her on Tuesday asking if she has plans for the weekend and she said probably not because she will be recovering from her trip. We had a brief text exchange but eventually she stopped replying. My only apprehension is I do not want to seem desperate or pushy but I do want to be persistent.

Lastly, if this weekend doesnt work out I am not sure if I should ask her to be my valentines because it might come across too forward since I havent made any moves yet.

[divine1966]

I’d not worry about Valentines Day. It’s just a day. Don’t worry about kissing or other things.

If you like her and want to know her as a person then you do need to communicate and spend more time with her. It sounds like you two barely know each other at this point. Your conversations are short and infrequent and only met 5 times. I am not sure what type of moves you are talking about. Romantic? You don’t even know her much

Yes it’s ok to contact her again when she’s back from a trip. If she responds, set up a meeting if she’s up to it but no do not ask about Valentines Day. And no do not be persistent.

If the guy barely talked to me or saw me but then wants romantic dates or being persistent, I’d be creeped out.

[Bill3]

Should I ask her again on Saturday/Sunday if shes doing anything/feeling spontaneous

I don't think you should ask her "if she is doing anything". I think you should ask her out to a specific event such as out to dinner, to a movie, etc., at a specific time, e.g. Saturday night, Sunday afternoon, etc. If she says she can't, so be it, you will try again another time.