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Extroverts always butt into conversations and interrupt too, which is rude. I'm not sure but heard since introverts are in touch with their feelings, we have more empathy for others and pick up on non-verbal clues. Quote:
You're right sometimes waiting is the best option, depending on the circumstances. Honestly I'm literally exhausted from chasing after people. Quote:
I think I posted that here or in a similar thread so sorry if repeating myself. It's just this subject is something I'm so adamant about: Communication. Say what you mean and mean what you say. It reminds me of that line from the song "Games People Play." You said earlier about COVID and weird people, how they got weirder. I agree. There's always been weird people. But COVID made them even weirder, or made people weird who weren't that way before. This virus didn't just make people physically sick. It hit people mentally too. And on that note, I'd have lost my mind years ago if not finding out others have similar experiences. That way I know it's not just me and it's a relief. __________________ Call me "owl" for short! Hmmm....looks like some good tips in here. "Okay, enough photos. I'm a very BUSY Business Kitty, so make an appointment next time." Last edited by nonightowl; Apr 14, 2023 at 12:16 PM.. |
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Putting my hand up, I think I got weirder - well more withdrawn anyway. On the surface I don’t appear to be but I definitely am doing less socially because I don’t want to. I wouldn’t reject anyone who came forward as a friend however.
I agree about being comfortable with occasional silences - to me it’s a sign of being at ease but some people can’t bear it and they jump to fill it. Often my brain is still processing stuff already said. |
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__________________ Call me "owl" for short! Hmmm....looks like some good tips in here. "Okay, enough photos. I'm a very BUSY Business Kitty, so make an appointment next time." |
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Interrupting and talking over someone is similar or maybe the same. I think the latter is when someone talks at the same time you're talking, while an interruption might give you a few seconds before they butt in. I bring it up because people do the latter a lot to me and I have to say "I'm talking" and they SHUT UP. Can't they see my lips moving?? It was really hard wearing masks because I have a soft voice but we're unmasked now. So SHUT THE EFF UP!!!!!! __________________ Call me "owl" for short! Hmmm....looks like some good tips in here. "Okay, enough photos. I'm a very BUSY Business Kitty, so make an appointment next time." |
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This is a bit off topic but still among the lines of people calling as they said they would. My hairdresser said in February she’s going out of town either in March and April but not sure for how long. She said she’d call everyone letting them know so they could see her before she leaves or wait until she returns.
Well I waited and waited, then called last week as it was mid April. She said “Oh I changed my mind, I’m going in May.” Well she SHOULD have told me. Thankfully she wasn’t booked for the rest of April as my hair is getting too long, lol. Anyway even though I think she should have told me, it’s not a deal breaker. She has reasonable fees, does good work, and is close to home. So I’m letting it go, plus I don’t feel like looking for another hairdresser again. It seems this is how people are. ——— Posted directly on site using iPhone __________________ Call me "owl" for short! Hmmm....looks like some good tips in here. "Okay, enough photos. I'm a very BUSY Business Kitty, so make an appointment next time." |
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But I quit going to another hairdresser because she was always late or forgot about our appointment altogether. She never even apologized when late or explain. Her excuses, when given (rare), were lame. When I said I won’t come back because this has happened multiple times, she grabbed her purse and stormed out of the salon. Another one didn’t show nor call to say she has to cancel. She later claimed an emergency and she was distracted. So I gave her the benefit of the doubt as these things do happen. So I gave her another chance and guess what, she pulled that again! She even confirmed it the night before! She didn’t apologize again as she knew it was pointless and I’m already looking for someone else again. I’ve had a hard time finding someone and now that I’ve done that, I’ll keep going to this one unless she pulls the same crap. I don’t think she will because I told her about my previous ones and why I left them. They both did good work but I need them to be on time and have professional courtesy to call if canceling or running late….. Thank goodness for this emoji as banging my head for real would hurt lol. ——— Posted directly on site using iPhone __________________ Call me "owl" for short! Hmmm....looks like some good tips in here. "Okay, enough photos. I'm a very BUSY Business Kitty, so make an appointment next time." Last edited by nonightowl; Apr 20, 2023 at 01:12 PM.. |
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After being a steady and loyal customer for years, he called me around 9pm the day before my appointment and said he doesn’t want to do my hair anymore. I tried to find out why but he was breaking up so much I couldn’t make much out (he was using his cellphone). I did hear “Good luck to you” and he hung up on me. I hate how he waited till the last minute to tell me that. And I hate calls that late from anyone. I only made out something about his clients lives and I think he was pissed I never confided in him or got him in my personal life but I didn’t feel comfortable. He was yelling into the phone….I thought he was tell him stuff. I also think he was offended when I said he’s abrupt sometimes when telling me how to handle my hair. He then said “I’m not talking to you anymore.” So he finished my hair in silence but had to speak when I booked the next appointment. He could’ve told me then but maybe he’s too cowardly. He never apologized to me for his demeanor or say he didn’t realize he comes off that way or SOMETHING. I think it was stupid for him to turn away steady business, since he’s self employed. I even accommodated him on occasions when he preferred cash! And this is how I get treated. He did do good work and had reasonable fees but I’m not obligated to open up to him, if that’s what pissed him off. I’m just guessing as I don’t know what else it could be. I was on time, I knew about when I wanted my next appointment to be, etc. Again I know I’m a bit off topic but I wanted to make a point that even a business relationship may not be as solid as you think. In hindsight it’s funny but just in a dark humor way. I mean wtf?? ——— Posted directly on site using iPhone __________________ Call me "owl" for short! Hmmm....looks like some good tips in here. "Okay, enough photos. I'm a very BUSY Business Kitty, so make an appointment next time." |
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I too cringe at oversharing between coworkers or boss and employee. Or client and customer. In other words I have boundaries whether they like it or not. Even in court you can plead the Fifth Amendment lol. The only thing I missed was he’s two years younger than me and it was great to talk to someone in my generation. There’s no one else and the people at the senior center are much older than me. And as a result they patronize me. ——— Posted directly on site using iPhone __________________ Call me "owl" for short! Hmmm....looks like some good tips in here. "Okay, enough photos. I'm a very BUSY Business Kitty, so make an appointment next time." |
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I forgot to say I unfortunately recommended this guy to a lady before all this happened. Hopefully she didn’t go to him; I’d hate to bring him more business after he told me he doesn’t need mine.
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Perhaps she didn’t stay long.
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Yep same here since I don't want to divulge stuff no one gives a crap about.
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