Being someone who is supposed to wait for others to initiate contact

Yeah it was unprofessional and the one who stormed out of the saloon was unprofessional too. I can understand not wanting to tell customers and even other coworkers about what's going on in your personal life but the way these hairdressers are going about it isn't very appropriate.

I’m not sure but I think another hairdresser I had before those was too involved with his customers. He was always telling me how he went to that person’s wedding or with that person to a concert or joined someone on their vacation. He once offered me a ride since I live on the way but said I need the exercise. That part is true actually lol.

After being a steady and loyal customer for years, he called me around 9pm the day before my appointment and said he doesn’t want to do my hair anymore. I tried to find out why but he was breaking up so much I couldn’t make much out (he was using his cellphone). I did hear “Good luck to you” and he hung up on me. I hate how he waited till the last minute to tell me that. And I hate calls that late from anyone.

I only made out something about his clients lives and I think he was pissed I never confided in him or got him in my personal life but I didn’t feel comfortable. He was yelling into the phone….I thought he was tell him stuff. I also think he was offended when I said he’s abrupt sometimes when telling me how to handle my hair. He then said “I’m not talking to you anymore.” So he finished my hair in silence but had to speak when I booked the next appointment. He could’ve told me then but maybe he’s too cowardly. He never apologized to me for his demeanor or say he didn’t realize he comes off that way or SOMETHING.

I think it was stupid for him to turn away steady business, since he’s self employed. I even accommodated him on occasions when he preferred cash!
And this is how I get treated. He did do good work and had reasonable fees but I’m not obligated to open up to him, if that’s what pissed him off. I’m just guessing as I don’t know what else it could be. I was on time, I knew about when I wanted my next appointment to be, etc.

Again I know I’m a bit off topic but I wanted to make a point that even a business relationship may not be as solid as you think.

In hindsight it’s funny but just in a dark humor way. I mean wtf??



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Oh yes in this scenario he was way too involved with his clients, he offended too easily as well. I find it so cringy when people open up about their personal lives whether it’s between coworkers or between employee and client, they act like they’re best friends. Most people really don’t care, although sharing positive stuff like weddings and graduations isn’t as bad as negative stuff. Overall, I agree that even professional relationships aren’t as solid as they seem.

I’ve always believed in that old adage, “Don’t mix business with pleasure”. I once had a hairdresser I went to for 27 years but then she retired and moved back East. She was a confidante and she shared some personal stuff with me as well. It was unique in that sense and the exception to not mixing business. Besides I didn’t socialize with her outside the salon. She was like a big sister.

I too cringe at oversharing between coworkers or boss and employee. Or client and customer. In other words I have boundaries whether they like it or not. Even in court you can plead the Fifth Amendment lol. The only thing I missed was he’s two years younger than me and it was great to talk to someone in my generation. There’s no one else and the people at the senior center are much older than me. And as a result they patronize me.



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I forgot to say I unfortunately recommended this guy to a lady before all this happened. Hopefully she didn’t go to him; I’d hate to bring him more business after he told me he doesn’t need mine.

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Yep I follow that adage too, most stuff is no ones business. Even in the rare times I do open up about something, I keep it very basic. For example, if a coworker asks how my weekend or summer was then I’ll say it was good. If they ask if I did anything fun, I just tell them either I chilled out at home which is what I usually do or vaguely mention I went somewhere like to a friend’s house or beach without going into detail.

Perhaps she didn’t stay long.

Or go at all.

I also keep stuff vague when talking about something I did. Or say nothing worth talking about then redirect the conversation to them. People love to talk about themselves.

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Yep same here since I don't want to divulge stuff no one gives a crap about.

I’m sure the receptionist at the dentist didn’t really give a crap about all these questions she was asking me. Stuff like am I retired, what books do I read, am I doing anything fun today, etc. Some of these things are striking a nerve.

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Yeah probably.