Why would my people pleasing friend not ditch this lying fake moocher?

She sounds like she’s got conflicting feelings, that can happen. Plus if she has a tendency to people please she may be laughing at memes with you to please/bond with you as much as trying to please others.

I guess it comes down to how do you keep your friendship with this friend, without another friendship impinging upon it.

Wow, sorry to hear that! Nothing is your fault. She probably seemed trustworthy at first. I’ve had former friends tell outrageous lies about me too. One accused me if being a drug addict for taking prescription meds! Wtf? Ugh!

She then later denied everything after I confronted her ar a movie theatre. I was never able to contact her as the coward blocked me. She was upset that I put a dent in her extremely fragile ego by being honest with her.

About her lack of boundaries, what dud she di aside from demanding to know everything about your marriage issues? That wasn’t OK.

Next time anyone does that, you’ll know it’s a huge red flag. Did she badmouth other people before she turned on you? I’m f si, that’s another red fkag. My former friend talked badly about everyone including her other best friend all the time. She told me tmi about her sex life too. So that shpuld have been a red flag for me too.

As I said, nothing is your fault. She betrayed you. Sometimes it’s best to keep certain issues to yourself m. Another so callled friend accused me of being a drug addict just for taking digestive pills in front of him! Wth? He is a huge hypocrite as he seems to think nothing is wring with drinking heavily all the time. I think he was an alcoholic.

Long story short, he tried to manipulate me into sharing a hotel room after drinking so that he could probably have a threesome with me & his weird ugly g.f, lol. I saw right through that. He is a pig and a big baby too, lol.

Your thread got me thinking about her. In the course of the life long friendship, I did plenty wrong, too. There was good times, good treatment, support peppered with digs, slights, thoughtless comments. There was the smack talk and gossip that I felt was typical of women. It is typical, but it isn’t right. I regret all this now.

There have been really hurtful comments different people have made to me over the years that were so stinging they really got under my skin. Had I been an angel, those insults wouldn’t have been hurled at me. I was so in shock because I felt I didn’t deserve those comments, thought it was really out there and over the top of why those people even thought to say them to me. I must have deserved it, having done something to them I wasn’t aware of, or having put out some vibe, showed some behavior, said some comments that showed me to be a bad person to them.

Anyway, I don’t want to hijack your thread. It’s not about me.

I hope you work out this struggle with your friends. I think you will have a fight with your friend if you try to convince her to not be friends with the other one you don’t care for. All you can do is just don’t go out with the both of them together. Just see the friend you like by yourselves. You may lose the friend you do like. She may choose the other friend over you.