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Old May 04, 2023, 11:03 PM
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What place would want somone like me aside from a low paying minimum slave labor retail job?

They abuse employees, They never give anyone more than 20 hours a week. Most places give employees 2-10 hours a week. I got as little as 2 hours a week!

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I live in Ca. near San Jose btw.
What employer near San Jose paid you 2 hours a week? This is a tiny fraction of the local minimal wage. When was it? Do you have proof of it? You might have a legal claim against that employer. I have a lawyer in San Jose who might be able to take your claim. Please provide the name of the employer and the time when it happened and I will check whether the statute of limitations on such a claim is still running.

It is unbelievable that in San Jose you would be paid $2/hr. I was at a Silicon Valley In'N'Out burger yesterday and they are hiring at $21-25/hr.

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Old May 04, 2023, 11:06 PM
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That’s why I am saying if you have a disability (not that you think you do but have actual proof), you need to talk to vocational disability services and they will help you out. If you do not have a disability, but suspect you have one, you need evaluation by a psychiatrist (if it’s mental or cognitive disorder that you suspect) or your GP (if it’s physical) and they can refer you to whatever evaluation you need. You’ll need that for receiving disability anyways

You cannot rely on him so you need to start relying on yourself
right. And you cannot get disability if you do not have ample medical records to prove your case. It is completely impossible. So if your husband supports your desire to get disability, he should at least pay for your doctor visits.

By the way, if you need a disability attorney (one who has had decades of experience helping people get SSDI) in San Jose, I can refer you to one.
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Old May 04, 2023, 11:09 PM
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I never signed anything for taxes. I didn’t know that.
It is impossible to file in the status of married filing jointly without both signatures. Maybe your husband forged your signature?
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Old May 04, 2023, 11:25 PM
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I think if filing online there is no need to sign physically.Your name is accepted as a signature. Correct me if I am wrong.
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Old May 04, 2023, 11:45 PM
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I think if filing online there is no need to sign physically.Your name is accepted as a signature. Correct me if I am wrong.
Yes, that is probably correct. It has been so many years since I filed married returns online that I do not remember.
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Old May 04, 2023, 11:51 PM
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What employer near San Jose paid you 2 hours a week? This is a tiny fraction of the local minimal wage. When was it? Do you have proof of it? You might have a legal claim against that employer. I have a lawyer in San Jose who might be able to take your claim. Please provide the name of the employer and the time when it happened and I will check whether the statute of limitations on such a claim is still running.

It is unbelievable that in San Jose you would be paid $2/hr. I was at a Silicon Valley In'N'Out burger yesterday and they are hiring at $21-25/hr.
I think she meant they’d not give you more work than just two hours. There is a huge shortage everywhere so I can’t imagine in my state that any employer would hire people to work two hours a week. Perhaps it was a long time ago.
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Old May 04, 2023, 11:57 PM
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I think she meant they’d not give you more work than just two hours. There is a huge shortage everywhere so I can’t imagine in my state that any employer would hire people to work two hours a week. Perhaps it was a long time ago.
You are right. Here is the quote: "They abuse employees, They never give anyone more than 20 hours a week. Most places give employees 2-10 hours a week. I got as little as 2 hours a week!"

The reason places do not give more than 20 hours per week is because many employers would need to pay benefits at, say, 30+ hours, and they do not want to do that, so they hire more people and give them fewer hours. However, I agree that no employer would hire people to work 2 hours a week. One reason is it would not be worth their managerial overhead to have so many employees that each works only 2 hours.
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Old May 08, 2023, 07:17 PM
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I have worked at back breaking low paying jobs before to where I was bullied, sexually harassed & over worked. Should should I go back to working minimum paying jobs to where I get abused because half of other disabled people on here work despite being disabled?

Maybe they’re supported & not abused. Please don’t insinuate that I don’t want to work. I can’t. If I did, I’d probably just get fired after a week again.

I never said apply for the same jobs that didn't work out. I recommended seeking out vocational support to explore other options. Others said the same.
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Old May 08, 2023, 11:01 PM
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What employer near San Jose paid you 2 hours a week? This is a tiny fraction of the local minimal wage. When was it? Do you have proof of it? You might have a legal claim against that employer. I have a lawyer in San Jose who might be able to take your claim. Please provide the name of the employer and the time when it happened and I will check whether the statute of limitations on such a claim is still running.

It is unbelievable that in San Jose you would be paid $2/hr. I was at a Silicon Valley In'N'Out burger yesterday and they are hiring at $21-25/hr.
Thanks. I was not paid $2 an hour. I said I worked as little as 2 hours a week which is still a joke.
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Old May 08, 2023, 11:03 PM
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I never said apply for the same jobs that didn't work out. I recommended seeking out vocational support to explore other options. Others said the same.
I’d still get fired or bullied & harassed though. I’m done. I’m applying for disability. It’s not worth making only nimum wage for & causing my physical disability to get worse.
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Old May 08, 2023, 11:04 PM
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Both my husband and I must sign in order to file. It’s not legal for him file jointly without your signature. Something fishy is going on
Maybe. I can’t prove anything though.
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Old May 08, 2023, 11:05 PM
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If he does not ever go see a doctor except for stitches, and believes his both will heal itself, he is not going to believe in counseling, either.
He doesn’t.
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Old May 08, 2023, 11:07 PM
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There are tax relief companies that, for a fee, will negotiate a settlement with the IRS if you are in financial trouble and it sounds like you are. There are scammers among them, but some are legitimate: your husband would need to look at consumer reviews and check with the Better Business Bureau. But it is possible.

There is obviously a huge power imbalance in the marriage, and one symptom of it is that your husband is hiding from you how much you owe to the IRS. But you said that you saw letters that come from the IRS. Have you ever opened them or is your husband now allowing you to open your joint mail?
Thanks. I told him to look into that . He said he tried everything but he didn’t go into details. You’re right about the powere imbalance. There is nothing that I can do. I have seen the letters. A lot of them go way back to the early part of 2000, weird!
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Old May 08, 2023, 11:08 PM
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right. And you cannot get disability if you do not have ample medical records to prove your case. It is completely impossible. So if your husband supports your desire to get disability, he should at least pay for your doctor visits.

By the way, if you need a disability attorney (one who has had decades of experience helping people get SSDI) in San Jose, I can refer you to one.
Thanks. Can you please message me the info? I appreciate it.
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Old May 08, 2023, 11:09 PM
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I think if filing online there is no need to sign physically.Your name is accepted as a signature. Correct me if I am wrong.
Maybe he did.
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Old May 08, 2023, 11:11 PM
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I think she meant they’d not give you more work than just two hours. There is a huge shortage everywhere so I can’t imagine in my state that any employer would hire people to work two hours a week. Perhaps it was a long time ago.
It wasn’t that long ago. It was before COVID though.
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Old May 08, 2023, 11:15 PM
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You are right. Here is the quote: "They abuse employees, They never give anyone more than 20 hours a week. Most places give employees 2-10 hours a week. I got as little as 2 hours a week!"

The reason places do not give more than 20 hours per week is because many employers would need to pay benefits at, say, 30+ hours, and they do not want to do that, so they hire more people and give them fewer hours. However, I agree that no employer would hire people to work 2 hours a week. One reason is it would not be worth their managerial overhead to have so many employees that each works only 2 hours.
Not only do they do that, they lie about everything! The hours, the job, everything! They overwork you too. Some places don’t even pay you any overtime which is illegal. Target is notorious for keeping all employees at least 15 minutes late & not paying them for it. They suck! And the raises are a whole .10 cents too, lol ! Warn people to not work there!
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Besides medical records you need to have worked a certain number of hours and years to get enough credits. I forget the number of credits you need but they have to have been from the last ten years. If you have only worked part time and not at all recently you may not be eligible. You can try for SSI however.
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Old May 08, 2023, 11:20 PM
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Walmart will fire you if you call in sick for more than 10 days I think. And nothing is done about bullying & sexual harassment. It’s all b.s. Especially if no one really likes you there. It’s a joke. I had my money stolen once out of my locker & I was dismissed by the manager.

These nasty female bullies waited for me to go on break then laughed after they saw that I couldn’t find my cash. And some people think that I should go back to that toxic b.s environment again for minimum wage? No way!
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Old May 08, 2023, 11:22 PM
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[QUOTE=jesyka;7331293]Walmart will fire you if you call in sick for more than 10 days I think. And nothing is done about bullying & sexual harassment. It’s all b.s. Especially if no one really likes you there. It’s a joke. I had my money stolen once out of my locker & I was dismissed by the manager.

These nasty female bullies waited for me to go on break then laughed after they saw that I couldn’t find my cash. And some people think that I should go back to that toxic b.s environment again for minimum wage? The cops won’t do anything about theft btw, especially for anything that’s under $950 in Ca. What a joke!
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Old May 09, 2023, 12:26 AM
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Besides medical records you need to have worked a certain number of hours and years to get enough credits. I forget the number of credits you need but they have to have been from the last ten years. If you have only worked part time and not at all recently you may not be eligible. You can try for SSI however.
You need the equivalent of having worked for 10 years total. They do not have to be the last ten years.
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Old May 09, 2023, 12:30 AM
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Thanks. Can you please message me the info? I appreciate it.
Sent you a PM with the link to the website of the disability law firm in San Jose, CA.
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Old May 09, 2023, 01:51 AM
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Sent you a PM with the link to the website of the disability law firm in San Jose, CA.
Thanks! You’re awesome!
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