My normally calm friend cussed me out yesterday in public for explaining a situation

I’m very upset mow & I cpuld use some support & advice & insight into things. Yesterday we went to a fair.

I saw this guy I had some issues with years ago. He was one of the performers at a show there. I saw him sneering at me by the shiws entrance.

This guy made some horrible false accusations against me in the past. Him & his friends bullied me online. Anyways, I tapped her on the shoulder (earlier in the parking lot I told her about him & that if I saw him, that was our signal to turn around & walk in the other direction).

She just stood there at first in a daze. She had a few drinks at that point but she wasn’t drunk.

We finally left. I then asked her if she forgot what I told her. She then snapped at me & accused me of arguing with her & trying to stsrt a fight & how I was ‘combative’ & angry & how I have a victim mentality & that I always make mountains out of molehills which isn’t true at all.

She has usually been calm & easy going most of the time. And supportive & empathetic too. She has never cussed me out & used the f worf towards me until yesterday. She has gotten irritated at me a couple of times after having a few drinks I noticed, but never sober.

She tends to be a passive It seems like it as she let people cut in front of her in line a few times & she let a guy ripher off at a food truck once.

She even went so far as to threaten to leave me thete if I didn’t let ot go. She knows that I jave nad anxiety & she kniws that this guy & his friends bullied me, but she had this dismissive attitude like, who cates? Just let it go.

I was trying to avoid him. I wasn’t trying to talk about what happened, I simply wanted to get away from him. I don’t understand why that would upset her. If she saw a guy that was making HER uncomfortable & she asked ME to please walk in the opposite direction with her, I’d say, sure, no problem!

Her behavior was very upsetting & bizarre! Why would she get so upset with me over that?

What was I supposed to do? Just let that guy sneer at me & stay there & suffer in silence? No thanks!

Those of you who don’t have bad anxiety don’t know what it’s like. Just imagine this, ever been around a creepy guy? Ever want to stay anywhere near them? Probably not.

And this is coming from a woman who’s ex b. f tried to kill her. I don’t get people at all. Later in the car she told me that she wasn’t actually going to leave me stranded there. You just don’t say stuff like that to someone with bad anxiety!

I yold her that & she yelled at me to drop it & agsin of trying to pick a fight. I was setting boundaries & she accused me of trying to argue with her!

She does NOT want to have ANY healthy discussion about anything at all!

Unless I feel that from now on I’ll need to walk on eggshells around her. It seems like she doesn’t want to hear about my problems or offer much in the way of support as my problems are ‘trivial complaints’ to her that aren’t serious.

The exception to that is my health as it’s something she canrelate to. She offered to help me pay for my healthcare which is nice. I’d need to pay her back though,. We have no insurance. She noticrd me coghing a lot & she kniws my husband doesn’t care about my health.

Why would she snap at me & cuss me out like this? She is under some stress now because she filed for divorce a month ago & she’ll need to support her husband still which she’s upset about as she earns more money than him.

There’ might be more going on with her too. She told me that she doesn’t bother me with her issues, so I think her general attitude is that she expects me to keep things to myself & not bother her with my problems it seems like.

She confuses me though as she’ll actually ask me about personal matters at times. Maybe it’s best to not go into deatils from now on.

I thought I knew her, but obviously I don’t. I was so upset yesterday that I shed a few tears at the nen h in public. I haven’t cried in public since I was a kid. That’s how hurt I was. She is like a sister to me & to have her not have my back & trll me that everything is MY fault is messed up. NOT everything is MY damn fault.

I van no longer trust her again or open up to her again. She just doesn’t want to hear it period. Any type of discussion is simply an ‘argument’ to her.

I don’t understand how someone like her can be an H.R manager when they simply don’t want to hear anyone discuss anything, lol.