Do I end this and never get into a romantic relationship again?

I have not seen a single flaw in them. If they have any, they're really damn good at hiding it, or I just don't see it.

How do you tell if they're a codependent? I feel more like they're trying to help me than fix me, but it does seem more like they're leading the way in helping me than us helping each other. They have a solid self esteem and a strong sense of self, but they do not think they are perfect. I can't imagine they're just with me because they like being with my "wonderful self," but maybe they see something in me I can't see. Maybe they see something I'm portraying that isn't really me because I'm scared of being alone.

I know the no romantic involvement AA saying, I just think half of what they say in AA meetings is bs. "Relapse is a part of recovery." I don't think that's true for 100% of people. "Don't drink and go to meetings." Yeah, if it were that simple..., tied into that is "meeting makers make it." You can go to as many meetings as you want, and get pissed when they say stupid shyt even if that's not all that's spewing, but not follow the steps which I guess are supposedly the key to being sober. "Easy does it." Ha. In my mind "easy" is the being blacked out most of the time.

I also don't think AA is the only way of overcoming an addiction. I haven't consistently drank since, I don't know, last summer, and my drug use hasn't been problematic for a solid amount of time either.