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Feb 24, 2008, 09:10 PM
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I have been so confused lately. Mainly because I have now got together with this guy for like the fourth time and well it's just confusing. I am wondering if I keep ending it because I am scared or something. I also wonder if it's because I don't believe I deserve respect or love and so then when he shows me that I run. It's almost as if I turn myself from the good things and turn to the bad. The thing is I can't even tell if people are good or bad, I can't tell if a relationship with a person is going to help or hurt me. I don't really know what to do much anymore. I am kind of lost. I mean I do love him and everything that is not the issue. I am just really lost on if he is good. I am wondering if I am just setting myself up because I have had a life of pain and abuse. Plus I was ust assaulted in May and well I was together with this guy before and after the incident. It's just all really confusing, I am hoping that some suggestions may be able to help me.
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Feb 24, 2008, 11:33 PM
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I had been through all hurtful relationships until I found my husband, and as he asked me out all I thought of was "here we go again I can put money on the fact I will get my heart broken again" but this time it didnt happen. You have to go through trial and error, dont be afraid to get your heart broken, its horrible I know, but if you dont try you may never find that someone that was truly meant to NOT hurt you.
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Feb 24, 2008, 11:33 PM
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If you do give him a chance and he takes atvantage of that then kick him to the curb, take a break from the dating scene and try again.
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Do not stand at my grave and weep; I am not there. I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow. I am the diamond glints on snow. I am the sunlight on ripened grain. I am the gentle autumn's rain. When you awaken in the morning's hush, I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft stars that shine at night. Do not stand at my grave and cry; I am not there, I did not die. R.I.P. Bandit 7-12-08 I love you I miss you. |
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Feb 25, 2008, 03:17 PM
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Can you give specific examples of what you struggle with?
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Feb 25, 2008, 03:24 PM
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Carrying an open umbrella on a sunny day is a great way to stay dry in case an unsuspected cloudburst happens upon you.
But enjoying the warmth and vitamins that our star gives is shadowed. Drop the umbrella, know that it will storm at some time or another and that as a mature prepared adult,,,you will be safe. It is a short trip we are on,,,give all the love you can with as little expectation as you are able.. be well, Lenny
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