[sarahwendes]

I am a survivor of abuse, my relationship is good, but one thing when I told him beside one on one therapy I as going to go to group throught my church, he said aren't you overdoing it a bit? We then talked and he undeerstadn I will do whatever it takes to heal....

[splash]

Hi sarah,

I have the same opinion as you: do what is necessary in order to feel whole and well. Years ago, I had a therapist suggest that I attend a group in addition to therapy sessions. It all depends on the person. Best wishes...

[Zenobia]

I found it necessary to emerse myself in my therapy to get past the abuse. If I didn't dedicate myself to this facet of life I would just numb myself up again and it would slide away until I hurt myself again. So when I made the decision to get over it and work through it I had to really open some deep wounds and nurse them. My husband asked me a couple of times why I couldn't just stop. But I couldn't. Not until I got some real understanding of what was going on with me. It because a quest of mamoth proportions.
Take care and may your path be littered with small pleasures.
Zen

<font color=blue>"I am just so tired."
<font color=green>"You can say you're tired as much as you want but you still have to do something about it. Now can you think of any way to deal with this problem."
<font color=blue> "No"
<font color=green>"Then I don't know what I can do for you if you are not willing to try."--from Zen's therapy session