[pink_elephant]

this is really bothering me and idk how to stop. i went out with this guy about 7 to 8 months ago and we dated for a month. when we were together he told me all this stuff about how he loved me and everything which me being me i believed him. we really didnt see much of eachtoher while we went out because it was towards the end of the school year so finals were going on and we were both going on vacations at different times, so we pretty much just talked on the phone and through text messages. i was the one that broke it off because of my boyfriend now and it apperently had crushed my exboyfriend even though he went the next day and told one of my friends that he liker her. we didnt talk for a few weeks after we broke up then we started getting into fights then one day his sister calls me and tells me to leave him the f@*# alone and the next day he calls me and apologises and says lets be friends and ill call you one day this week and we'll hang out. so the week went by and we were both busy so never hung out. then i went on vacation for three weeks and when i got back the first time i saw him was at band practice [ hes in band im on the color guard ] and he was just kind of ignoring me the whole night. the next day he ignored me totally again at practice so i texted him that night and we got into this huge fight and basically he told me he still liked me and all this other stuff. so as the months have gone by we've been talking on and off and fighting on and off. he kept playing with my mind telling me he liked me then saying he didnt. basically he was just trying to get some out of me. ive been trying really hard to get over him and i dont like him anymore and the other day my one friend helped me forget baout him completely but now its like i cant stop thinking about him again. hes a year older than me so i dont have any classes with him at school but he is in my lunch an i will see him before and after school most days and sometimes in the hallway. i just want to forget about him but i dont know how. ive tried so hard and i just want him out of my head. everything that has happened between me and him is haunting me and idk how to get through it. he wont talk to me at all so i cant get answers out of him. i just wnat to get him out of my head. any advice?

[Doh2007]

I don't know what to advise, but I'm sorry you're going through this tough time.

[sally_j]

i know what your talking about i've been there and done that. To me it sounds like this guy is playing with your head alot. One day yall fight, one day you stay friends, one day this one day that. Your gonna have to want to stop thinking about him. And its gonna take alot of effort from your side as well and into helping yourself getting over him. Sitting down and thinking about him what good is it anyway. It will only make you worse is that what you want? best advise is try to keep yourself busy hang out with your friends alot more go out and met other people.

[pink_elephant]

thanks for all your advice everyone. it did help. i finally have stopped thinking about him. it took being with my boyfriend now for a week and finally being happy for the time being to get fully over him... [ me and my boyfriend are in a long distance thing ] im just glad i can stop thinking about him and focus more on other things in my life... thanks again everyone.