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#1
May 01, 2008, 01:24 AM
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when you're married it sucks
when you're single you wish you had a partner to share life with. what's wrong with just being alone and being satisfied that way? |
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May 01, 2008, 01:29 AM
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youOme said: what's wrong with just being alone and being satisfied that way? </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> I think a lot of us get the idea early in life that we HAVE TO have someone else to complete us and that we have to get married or have a bf/gf. But it's not true! You can be happy being alone...but the trick is to find out how to be ok with being alone, doing your own thing, etc. I know I only feel like being with someone maybe once a week...so I figure I'm better off either having someone who's gone all week and home on the weekends or just being single! |
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May 01, 2008, 11:31 AM
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I've lived both sides, and I can honestly say that although I've lived four years existing, and happily so, I've only comes back to life again having someone to look forward to talking to in the evening and get a kick out when I hear her laugh.
But then, despite my unsociable nature I've always liked companionship that understands me.
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May 01, 2008, 02:37 PM
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you might be able to get a balance inbetween the two by just having a room mate to live with. But that only works when youre younger
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May 01, 2008, 04:22 PM
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Marriage doesn't have to suck... marriage can be wonderful with the right person
I wouldn't generalize about 'marriage' based on an experience in an unhealthy relationship. And I'm sorry that it's sucking for you
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May 02, 2008, 10:10 AM
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How funny, my case is definitely the odd one, I knew early in life that I did not want children and I was quite young (22) when I discovered that I really didn't want to get married. I ran with a couple of guys over the years, but the thought of marrying one or even living with one was so far out of the question, it never entered my mind.
I've been entirely single my whole adult life and very much prefer it! I laugh at my friends who get jealous because I do whatever I want whenever I want. I remind them quickly that I'm not the one who got them married or pregnant! I am honestly a very content individual and have no regrets about it at 45. I don't expect to have any regrets at 55, 65 or 75 either. My motto is, if men can do it, how hard can it be????? 
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May 02, 2008, 09:52 PM
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first male I lived with beat the living crap out of me, second male treated me kindly and fair (no sex involved , plutonic, third, my hubby happy, ups and downs , after he passes I will be happy to live alone, my choice, if I can't have hubby no one else will do, you make your choices, you make your life, it's up me how I want to be happy IMHO, I have invested alot in our relationship and it worked out for the best
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#8
May 02, 2008, 11:24 PM
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The trick is, once you've been married and then aren't to remember what marriage was like!
 Ok... being more serious now... What are you trying to win? "Win" implies a game, a contest or such. Marriage is not supposed to be any of those. If it is, that's good place to begin. 
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May 03, 2008, 10:01 AM
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I'm just trying to win satisfaction out of this whole deal...basically.
Marriage isn't bad....just, dull..and can be sucky. Mine is sucky. Singlehood, well it sounds all exciting and adventurous, but it gets old...they get lonely and wish they had someone else to be with. Love and relationships is a funny thing. |
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