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May 27, 2008, 10:19 PM
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All through out my life I've been made fun of and sexually harassed by guys (and still am, occasionally) and it's been a really hard for me right now to trust my boyfriend . Just cause guys in the past have hurt me physically (three guys slammed me into a locker freshman year and I broke my thumb)and emotionally and it's hard for me to imagine that my bf is any different from them you know?-as horrible as it is to say
 I just can't help but get phobic that he's going to cheat on me, stop liking me or hurt me physically/emotionally in some way. It's just really hard for me to trust him I want to I really do! It's just I always have my doubts and it's aggravating cause...well he's my boyfriend! lol I shouldn't be thinking all these negative thoughts about him but I do...Now I have told him about how guys hurt me in the past-very very briefly , cause I'm pretty embarrassed talking about it. And of course he was sympathetic lol but I never told him how I was somewhat phobic of him cause I didn't want to hurt his feeling or offend him you know? But still, I want to get rid of this feeling!! It's the worst thing in the world And it just keeps getting worse cause it seems like he doesn't like me anymore...I mean like, If we hang out, he'll suddenly go, 'well I guess I'll take you home,' and we would have probably be hanging out for three hours! and it doesn't make sense to me cause at the beginning of summer break he said his curfew was till 12-and yet strangely , whenever we hang out, he as to leave by 5 Also he'll always have plans for us to hang out and just before a couple hours-before he gets to my house, he'll call and cancel our plans, saying he can't. So far he's been doing that for a couple days now-and I know it's not because he has work otherwise I wouldn't be making a big deal about it lol I don't care if he can't-like if he has a curfew or he wants to hang out with his friends or something along the lines of that-I just want him to be honest with me and not lie!! I'm tired of guys treating me like crap...  I'm tired of always second guessing and getting stressed out by him!! I'm just so tired of everything! |
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May 28, 2008, 06:06 AM
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May 31, 2008, 12:49 AM
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Its hard to trust any man when your perception of a man has been jacked up in the first place.
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May 31, 2008, 02:08 AM
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May 31, 2008, 07:48 AM
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He sounds rather inconsiderate of your time and effort. Unfortunatly there are way to many woman who for whatever reasons desire to actually be treated like dirt. This conditions men into believing that being disrespectful is somehow a way to win the heart of every woman, sad but true...
I know this from my own experiances, I am the perpetual "nice guy" The one who takes his time planning dates that cater to the desires and interest of the other person. The one who brings a gift over for no reason but to bring joy to the one he dated, the one that opened the car door, the resturant door, and the door to his heart. The one who wrote poetry and sonnets for the one he wanted. The one who could not get a date to save his own life. Unfortunatly in our post-gender feminist world women have been brainwashed to belive that all of the above is out-dated and patronizing, Damn shame really. I lucked up and met one of the few women still left on the planet who responds to kind and caring man. It sounds like you may be another. My point is, DO NOT SETTLE. If any man treats you with anything less than consideration and respect for your time and you being there for him... DUMP HIS ***! Men who are inconsiderate jerks, DO NOT IMPROVE, DO NOT CHANGE, he will always treat you this way. You deserve much better, and you should have much better. sorry for all the caps, but this issue evokes a lot of passion in me, I cry for those gentle souls so badly treated. Best of luck to you... It sounds like you deserve true love, please do not give up yet. (((Emmeline)))) TJ |
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May 31, 2008, 08:17 AM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
Timgt5 said: My point is, DO NOT SETTLE. If any man treats you with anything less than consideration and respect for your time and you being there for him... DUMP HIS ***! Men who are inconsiderate jerks, DO NOT IMPROVE, DO NOT CHANGE, he will always treat you this way. TJ </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> DAMN STRAIGHT!!! ;] I was abused too by men in my past and now that I have found a guy who respects me, he was taken away from me. I don't know now. But yeah, I have a difficulty of trusting guys too. <font color="purple">Clandestine</font> |
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Jun 06, 2008, 08:26 PM
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Hi Timgt5,
You seem to be so smart about what women want. Are you married? |
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Jun 06, 2008, 10:21 PM
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My advice is a quote I once read, and it really is TRUE!!!
DON'T MAKE SOMEONE A PRIORITY, WHEN THEY MAKE YOU AN OPTION. I do hope that things get better for you. GOD bless =) |
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#9
Jun 06, 2008, 10:58 PM
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Yes for eight years, I am far from good with the opposite sex though, truth is if my wife had not come along I would be alone, dateless and single to this day.
There is no other woman on this planet that would have given me a chance. Truth is having APD is like all the romance, emotion gets trapped on the inside. If you read the Perfect Weekend, a story I posted in CC a week or so ago, well thats who I am on the inside, but noone ever sees it, because I am too frightened by others to express it in real life TJ |
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