[Justgiving]

I just came back from watching the fireworks which were lovely but while I was there I met this lady who works with my husband and she said that my husband might lose his job and I said what?

She said there was a meeting last friday and my husband raised his voice a bit too high and expressed himself in a very controlling way wich " his boss " didn't approved off. She even said that his boss tried politely to changed the subjet but my husband came back raising his voice to attrack attention and continued with his controlling behavior.

My husband didn't talked to me about this at all. He only said, last friday, that he might not work this week because they didn't really needed him.

Why does my husband do this? Why does he want to control everyone and everything all the time? Why?

[nightbird]

has he been diagnosed with OCD?

or some other issue?

maybe his MD could prescribe something to calm this activity down in the brain and if he wants to get better, seeing a therapist to work out behavioral issues would help also.

meanwhile, try a bookstore, look in the help or psychology section, or check the reading lists here, and buy one that describes the relationship your H. has with the world and those in it, and you may be able to guide him to take care of it.

it does sound more than just being controlling, as, in general.

sorry for the problems, and your worries. it isn't fun for you. hope you can take advantage of good information and put it into practice to protect yourself, and maybe one day, learn to humor these days - not now - I know, it's serious.

peace and good luck,
nightbird

[wanttoheal]

(((((((((((Justgiving))))))))))) I'm so sorry. That must be so stressful for you. I hope everything works out. Please keep us posted.

[Justgiving]

A big thank you to both of you.

Yes it is very stressful. I can't be the only one bringing money in or we will not make it. 6 months ago I was the only one working and we did had a very hard time. It was winter time and I couldn't even pay for heat.

My husband is on antidepressant and was seeing a therapist but I don't know if he is still seeing him. I don't think so though. He never talks about his visits to the therapist.

My communication with my husband is very limited. I have to be careful what I say to him and how I say it. I always have to chose my words.

Again thank you.