[Kendyll]

I was reading on this other board about a girl with BPD who is dating a guy with DID, and this other girl got all over her telling her that it's not healthy and enabling and all sorts of bad things for the two of them to be together. She even said it was in all the books and studies and things.

Since one of my Dx's is/may be BPD and my BF is DID, does that mean we shouldn't date anymore?
Where are these studies and books? I don't remember reading anything like that in anything so far, but I don't remember a lot of things.
I don't want to break up with him! I love him very much and he loves me and we stand by each other.

[bebop]

if you and he are dealing ok with things now you don't break up just because someone else says you shouldn't be together or what a book might say. go with your heart

[wanttoheal]

Each situation is different. If your relationship is benefiting both you and bf, I wouldn't worry about it. Just make sure you both are getting support for your own stuff too. If it gets to a point where it's not working, then you can always reevaluate it.

[Kendyll]

Thanx guys.
I think it's working just fine.

Why would people be so hateful like that?
Of course, lots of people would also say "never date anyone with BPD" too. I'm just glad that just about no-one has heard of Schizotypal!

I guess it really doesn't matter, as long as everyone's healthy and happy.
I just love him. Even my T told me today that he thinks I'm in a good relationship now, and my T doesn't hold back.

Thanks a lot!

I am BPD and married to a DID/MPD and we get on great he loves to retell stories and with my bad memery thats just fine, I get bored easily too so with his switiching it works fantasticly !

Ignore them and go with how you feel, if it works great if it dont then....

[iamtwilight]

I'm BPD and DID!! I must be terrible, but my partner wants to be with me nevertheless. I will never understand why, and I will never be sure if he's lying or telling the truth, but I am happy, and I love him and I want to make him happy.

And if you Kendyll, feel that way about your bf, don't break up with him. DID is tough to deal with, BPD is tough to deal with but it doesn't mean it can't work out. From what I've read, you've gotten well along with your bf's alters and that is very good! It is exactly the right thing to do. If you don't want to take the alters seriously (like some disgusting sites advise) - that will be a problem.

Also, I heard about BPD that we identify with vampires because they drain people's emotional strength and take please in it. That BPDers need that to live. I have to disagree with that. Even though I'm constantly afraid of being left alone, I will never cling to anyone or demand constant attention.

So not all with BPD are like that... and if they are they can go to Ts and stuff to learn new ways to deal with things like that!

No need to worry about some people speculating, Kendyll. :-) it seems you've gotten some wonderful advice already but I felt compelled to reply...