[agony007]

for those of you who have read my previous posts, you know that my hub and i just got back together after a seperation as per my request. i must tell you that it is going quite well. i've had a rough patch these past couple of days because i ran out of my meds and my pdoc was out of town. it was tough but i am getting through it and am suppose to see my pdoc today. hopefully that goes well. well since my hub and i had a chance to be alone in the house with just the kids and none of my other relatives who were living in my house, i noticed that our life was much better, just the two of us. it was my fault that my relatives were residing in our home. i should've realized that problem when my hub brought it up to me on several occasions, instead i use to get defensive about it and shut him out. now i can see the difference and i understand where he was coming from. my relatives had been gone for 2 weeks and just came back for one week until they move out this weekend, and i must tell you that i realized that i enjoyed our time alone without them in the house. without my meds and my fam there, i began to shut down. and now i am looking forward to their move. i am going to miss my aunt because in essence she has really been my mother. but i am so glad not to be living with my mother. i am glad that i told her that she can't stay with us. it was hard for me to do because i try to avoid confrontations at all costs due to my anger issues and shutting down problems. but i have to say i think this is the best change i have made in a long time.

[50guy]

It's wonderful to have privacy in your own home with just your hubby and kids.

I remember when I had both of my kids and their families living with me. I was living in the lower level with my wife while my kids had the upper level and the house next door. We did the dishes in the utility sink. Luckily we had a bedroom and separate shower and I installed a kitchenette. It went on for 2 years and then I had enough. The rent stopped being paid and I was made to feel like a guest in my own home. I put up the security deposit and first months rent to get my son and his family out of the upstairs, what a relief that was. Then a few months later my older son decided that my house next door was not good enough, even though it is a nice home. He bought his own house, much smaller and more money per month although he could barely pay me. I rented it out to a nice young family and have never had a problem again. I would hesitate to let family move in again. Right now my DW has a brother and family that is being foreclosed on, they have hinted around to move in but, no way, we just signed a lease with our tenants for another year. there is no way they are moving in to my lower level. I'd move out first. My DW told them to forget it. Never again.

Good luck with your peaceful home.

[agony007]

thanks guy,

you are so right! i am glad your problem was resolved. yes, peaceful is the word! i didn't notice what type of peace i would have until the last 2 weeks. i am glad i had that time to reflect on what my life can be like.

[AAAAA]

I'm so glad to hear that you're all doing well!