Platonic girlfriend undressed in front of me..?

My platonic girlfriend that I grew up with for years in my neighborhood undressed
in front of me last week. We hang out all the time, have dinner together, watch
movies at home and I keep an eye on her 2 boys after school when she works late.
We have never been intimately involved just good friends. She is divorced and
her last relationship went bad when her boy friend threw a brick through her plate glass window.
Last week her boys were being watched by the grandmother on her ex-husbands side.
She is a manager at stop & shop and works long hours. I met her at her
house last week and as soon as she was inside the house she wipped off her work
smock and then took of her bra to put on a comfortable T-shirt.
It really took me by surprise and she seemed to take her time doing it. I did say anything or re-act to the situation.

I really don't know what to think about this..?
She is a very large breasted girl and has joked/complained in the past about how she gets sick of lugging them around.
I just never expected this from her. Was she doing it not really thinking about it or was she maybe trying to get my attention..? I've also noticed she has been
phoning me more often lately.
Frankly I'm a little confused and really don't know what to think..?
Anyone have any ideas on this...???

Could this be her way of trying to entice me or get my attention?

I've had women undress in front of me before, ie (ex-wife, past girlfriends)
but never with a PLATONIC friendship....

How do yoou feel about her?
Do you want to continue a strictly platonic friendship,
or do you wish there was more?

I honestly have to admit I do care for her a great deal
not sure if its romantic love or just a good friend type
of love...?

I do know we both have had 2 previously bad relationships and been hurt on both occassions.

This is one to think about for sure..

Hi there! First and foremost, what is platonic? I mean how do you define platonic in your case? Analyze yourself. the feelings you have for her. Anf from thereon, we will know. And also, you should also know if those actions were already manifested even before the two of you have met. Is it already her habit of doing such things or is it just recently after the two of you have met. Because if that is the latter, then it is indeed clear that she is somewhat really into you or seducing you. And you must also know that there types of people like that. Persons of that kind who seduces are also called HISTRIONIC Type of persons. They are persons who are somewhat attention-seekers whose only way to catch your attention is to dressed in such a way and seduces you. What I am trying to say here is you should try to atleast analyze it if is natural on her part to act or behave that way or is she really doing it with the clear intentions of catching your attention.

Thanks Snow flakes.....I do have to say she does seem to be a bit of an attention seeker, likes to run
the show most of the time or be the center of
attention.

That doesn't bother me personally, because she's
good hearted and knows just about everything about
me my past, my past relationships, and other personal
and private dilemas in my life.

She has also discussed past relationships in detail with
me now that I think about it...

I just never expected her to do that that evening it
really took me off guard.......to say the least.

Maybe I should just come right out and confront her
about it or drop a subtle hint or two.

I have read and do remember about Histrionic people
but I realy don't think of her as that. Although she
does tend to be bossy and aggressive at times..LOL

Thanks for your input....much obliged to ya.

Ahhh, I hate, hate, hate this dilemma. Platonic or not platonic? Hated it when it would happen to me, still hate it when it happens to others.

It's so hard to know what to tell you without knowing your exact situation, and I think that would be something one would need to see first-hand. Is there a friend who knows both of you well that you could consult? Perhaps she is obviously making signs that she wants to take things to another level and you're missing them, or perhaps not (I'm not trying to be critical here...it's strange how "obvious" signs are not so obvious when their target is you ).

Otherwise I'd say take it slow, but don't be overly cautious. On the one hand, perhaps she is wrestling with her own thoughts about you, and a confrontation might prove to be unsettling. On the other hand, if you do like her as well - and this is something you have to think about seriously - you don't want her to drift away because you're not moving fast enough.

Long story short, good luck!!

I know what you mean about platonic...!! Another
thing that concerns me is, if we were to take it to
the next level and it didn't work out, our friendship
wouldn't be the same afterwards??

Last year we went camping together and had a blast
and her boys and I get along really well. Especially
her younger son.

Her ex-husband is a crack addict and is never around
for his children. She was seeing another guy last year
but he was always violent especially when he went off
his medication because he is Bi-polar.

She knows about my depression issues and medication
and really doesn't seem to mind.

I always thought Platonic was just a good friendship
with out intimacy or sexual relations..?

She is a hard worker and the last time she made me
dinner, she had hinted around that it would be nice if
she could come home some night and have dinner
made for her...?

Maybe I should make dinner for her some night
and see where that goes...?

Yeah, the dinner thing sounds like a pretty strong hint...why not give it a shot? At the very least, you'll be doing something nice for a good friend. Actually, it might work out best if you think of it that way, or at least propose the idea to her like that. Ahhh, such a tightrope to walk!

It's good at least that you're concerned about the friendships you have with her and your kids. Sounds like she's had things pretty rough. I suppose the thing is to make sure that you're ready for a relationship, if that's the way you want things to go, seeing as you're still recovering from some stuff yourself. You don't want to make her life more complicated, as you already know. But it sounds like you're going in the right direction.

I think I just may do the dinner thing it can't hurt like
you said and maybe take it from there.

Either way I'll keep posting on this...it helps so much
to be able to discuss a situation like this.

And as for myself I was burnt not too long ago after
a 10 year relationship, mostly because of Inlaw inter-
ferance. Along with other issues too.

Yes, posting on this forum has helped me out greatly with a few issues as well, and I'm still a newbie.

In-laws can be poison to a relationship...sorry to hear that they were a factor in wrecking yours.

Good luck with everything.

The possibilities of her thoughts and wishes are infinite. I would suggest a more direct approach. In a romantic setting have a conversation about your friendship the past, present day, and where she would like your relationship to go. You would then be more aware of her hopes and dreams, and have direction. Simply listen, and relax, let the conversation flow. IMHO
Good Luck!
Holmes

Thanks again Dig....Even as a newbie you have given me some good suggestions.....and your a great poster....so keep posting...and
Welcome to PC.....

ziggy1
(Dave)

Hi ziggy!

I think digdug has point there. Maybe she wants to take your relationships to the next level. As for me, those manifestations or acts are very overt or obvious signs of her wanting you. Maybe you are just overlooking things out of it that you tend to disregard her and your feelings for her. Moreover, It is also a good that that you are intending to talk with her and clear things out so that you would know what she really feels about you and you to her as well. Good luck! Would be more than happy to be your friend.

Thanks snowflakes for your responses, much appreciated,digdug and holmes, the same goes for you....you've also been helpful.

I phoned her today left a voice message and asked if she wanted to chill out tonight over dinner and a movie.
still waiting on her reply.

Happy to be friends with you too snowflake....take care have a great day!!!

ziggy1, thanks for the kind words. Good to know you, too.

Good luck with everything today/tonight.

Arg! I agree-- be cautious!

I think the dinner idea is a good idea...especially since she herself suggested it!!

Thank u Sophia.....the dinner has been working out well...!!! Were taking it slow and she asked for a picture of us together so I took one of us together and she liked it! But she likes the level we are at right now and she knows my history and past including my problems with depression/anxiety and PTSD,
and other stuff as well. So that helps alot, but she is very trusting of me and me of her so thats a big step for me just to trust anyone...PERIOD!!!

Thanks to all who replied to this post along with sophia.

(((((((tooo allllll))))))))

Sounds like things are going smashing, ziggy, to borrow a Britishism. Seriously, it sounds like the both of you are doing things just right. Good luck the rest of the way.