Seperated and Pregnant

I'm in need of some advice. My husband and I have been seperated (not seeing other people, but no longer living under the same roof) for the last month. It's been an emotional roller coaster. He decided to leave because he was depressed - says he doesn't know why he just is. Well I found out I'm pregnant a couple days ago and I just don't know what to do. I don't want him to come back just because I'm pregnant, but I don't want to go through this alone. I just have so many mixed emotions about this. I'd prefer to give him a chance to come back on his home, but after a month it's doesn't feel like he is going to. It's bad enough having someone say they love and miss you, but they don't know if they want to be with you anymore. Now that I'm pregnant I just want to go crawl back in bed and refuse to come out.

(((((Fallling Apart)))))

I think you should tell him. He deserves to know, he's the father. But beyond that, if he knew you were pregnant he might decide to work harder at your relationship. Who knows, it could be a positive turning point for him. Is your husband getting help for his depression?

Best of luck.

I agree he should know he is going to be a father. it might help bring him out of the depression he is in also. I am sorry you are going thru this. good luck.

i am sorry you are in such a rough place right now. babies are such a blessing but i know you would really like to have the baby's dad there to be a part of this.

like the others i guess i think he should know, it may give him a focus off of himself and his depression. i know you will figure out what to do. i hope you are ok with it but i am going to pray for you all in hopes you can build a family together.

i would encourage him to get some medical help and counseling if possible to help him find his way out of this dark place he is in.

all the best to you and the family you are building!

leslie and her pixies

Falling Apart...I feel such concern for you. I'm confused, though, as to whether your husband actually knows if you are pregnant or not? Have you, in fact, told him of this, as others have suggested you do, or are you still considering telling him?
Love
Patty

like all others have said he needs to know , so you both can work out where you go from here, you are right not to want him to come bk just for baby sake , he needs to do it for him and you as well, working togeather on the relationship and his depression might help

good luck

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I'm so sorry that things are so difficult right now.

You should tell him. He is still your husband and the father of your unborn child. He should have a say, not only in this relationship, but also in decisions affecting his future and that of his unborn child's.

I wish you well, hon, and hope you stay around, talking to gain support you so desperately need right now.

KD