[myoasis89]

as I'm getting older, almost 20, I realise how I am in need of a close parental relationship. My mother and father were never really close to me. I am realisng now that my mother really knows nothing about me. She doesn't trust me. Just last night she was saying...why are you home. Why are you not at work.

Of course i was not skipping work because I wasn't booked into work to begin with. I've never gone on a pleasurable shopping trip with her. All she does is want to stay home and complain. The only fufilling relationship I have is with my bf but i can't put all my focus on him because it's stressful for him. I've tried so hard to make new friends but I feel no one likes me. I try being friendly and open...but I'm still doing things wrong. I have troubles having friendships because with me I usually get bored of a relationship and then want to be on my own...does anyone have any tips for making new friends?

[skeeweeaka]

Originally Posted by myoasis89

as I'm getting older, almost 20, I realise how I am in need of a close parental relationship. My mother and father were never really close to me. I am realisng now that my mother really knows nothing about me. She doesn't trust me. Just last night she was saying...why are you home. Why are you not at work.

Of course i was not skipping work because I wasn't booked into work to begin with. I've never gone on a pleasurable shopping trip with her. All she does is want to stay home and complain. The only fufilling relationship I have is with my bf but i can't put all my focus on him because it's stressful for him. I've tried so hard to make new friends but I feel no one likes me. I try being friendly and open...but I'm still doing things wrong. I have troubles having friendships because with me I usually get bored of a relationship and then want to be on my own...does anyone have any tips for making new friends?

I wish I had the answer for you, but unfortunately I don't. I'm feeling the same way though... For whatever reason, I seem to have a difficul time making friends. Perhaps it's my negative personality, perhaps it's my perfectionism. Whatever it is, I get the feeling that people just don't want to be around me and that makes me sad.

I hope that you can figure out what is going on with you because you are young and you have a long life ahead of you... Work on it now so that it does not control your life. Life is much happier when you have friends and loved ones to share it with.

TJ

[mountainhigh]

You might try joining a club like Rotaract (Rotary for people your age). Volunteering at your local foodbank or another charity. You might also tryout for a bit part with your community theatre or volunteer to help with makeup or building sets. I've done all the above (and still do) and have alot more friends for it.

The great humanitarian, Albert Switzer, said that true happiness only comes from helping others.