[myoasis89]

gotten over codependency....if so...explain how you did.

[Rhapsody]

I would have to say that I got over it out of the need to do for my self when others would not as I became an adult..... then I learned that I could indeed do things with out some one else after having to rely mostly on my self and only my self for many years.

SO... I guess you can say that I learned by doing.

[cantstopcrying]

AWESOME AWESOME AWESOME book called Co-dependant no more. I have loaned this book to three people who have highlighted and written in it and it looks like it's been abused but really it has been loved. Everyone who I have loaned it to says it has helped change their life.

[17Dar]

what is co-dependancy?

Dar

[cantstopcrying]

It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as “relationship addiction” because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive

[Junerain]

Yes, yes, and yes......I started not to care so much what people thought and said about me when I had a job and co-workers that I loved, people to bounce ideas off of, people to point out that I was too codependent, and gently urge me on my way to independence As I gained more and more confidence, I dated more and more, and began to be more choosey about who I dated, rejecting those that didn't have it all together, as _I_ was beginning to have it all together Then in my studies at nursing school we learned nurses were assertive, period, end of story. I began striving for assertiveness, along with more critical thinking towards my own life, my own relationships...got out of my one sided relationship and began dating my best male friend of ten years But most of all time, time and more time, does it, along with experiences, the right experiences, the right choices, even the right small choices....could you write more about your own situation I'm curious and your desire to be less codependent what a beautiful desire...self-love lasts longer than any kind of love

[skeeweeaka]

Originally Posted by Junerain

Yes, yes, and yes......I started not to care so much what people thought and said about me when I had a job and co-workers that I loved, people to bounce ideas off of, people to point out that I was too codependent, and gently urge me on my way to independence As I gained more and more confidence, I dated more and more, and began to be more choosey about who I dated, rejecting those that didn't have it all together, as _I_ was beginning to have it all together Then in my studies at nursing school we learned nurses were assertive, period, end of story. I began striving for assertiveness, along with more critical thinking towards my own life, my own relationships...got out of my one sided relationship and began dating my best male friend of ten years But most of all time, time and more time, does it, along with experiences, the right experiences, the right choices, even the right small choices....could you write more about your own situation I'm curious and your desire to be less codependent what a beautiful desire...self-love lasts longer than any kind of love

Wow....you've done really, really well! Thnks for the information! Yes I am codependent...not a good thing...working on myself is an important step in the right direction!

TJ