[dholly84]

I am a single mother of four wonderful children. Well for the past, 8 yrs going on 9, 95% of my family will not talk to me. I am a medical student and work hard. The only family that does talk to me is my sister and my mother. I talk to my dad maybe once a month. It hurts so bad and I have actually gone into depression. I don't have family to spend with on holidays or birthdays. I have emailed them and tried to call but don't get a response and when I call they don't want to talk. I don't know what to do, I haven't seen any of my family since I was about 15 yrs old when I was out of control. I have apologized for the hell I put these people through but again nothing. I don't know if I should just leave them alone or try a different approach. Family means so much to me and I just wish I knew what to do. If I could get some advice or something that would be great.

Thanks

[BlueFaith]

Hi, dholly. It seems to me like you have done all you can do. If they choose to miss out on your life and your childrens' lives, then it's their loss. You can't force them to be a part of your life.... I wouldn't beg them or keep apologizing. It sounds like you are doing well for yourself and your kids. It's the rest of your family that's missing out. My suggestion is to get out and make some good friends, or take a good look at the friends you already do have in your life. I know my friends are my family in alot of ways. Sometimes we get to choose our family... those close friends can become your family. I'm not close to my family either, but I do have my own little family anyway. Just don't think you have to keep apologizing over and over for something. You've said it once, and I'm sure you meant it. That should be enough. I wish you all the best!!