[CJR520]

My life is surely changing, and I am trying to cope the best I can. Hubby went through mid-life crisis, and we survived that. During that time, our daughter encouraged any silly behavior that her step dad wanted to do, like going to bars, when he hadn't done that alone for our whole marriage. She also told him to leave me. Her plan was to ask him to stay with her and her husband and child so he could help pay her college bills. Our son stuck by me and him and tried to just be there and help any way he could, bless his heart! Now, daughter has not been to our home for over a year, will not come around at holidays or acknowlege birthdays, will not visit or call her grandparents (my parents), or any other members of the family. The sick part of this, is that she is going to school to do social work, and help the elderly. Two years ago, she put our daughter in laws mother in harms way by taking her to a sisters where she died two weeks later from not having her meds. The lady had alzheimers, and daughter in law and son were doing the best they could with her. She would get argumentive with them at times over eating right and bathing, and they were looking into a nursing home for her. We are also not allowed to see her 8 year old son, and she will not go see her 21 year old son and little 1 year old grandson. She has never held down a full time job, because she always gets in fights with people, so when she starts working to pay these college bills back, it will be interesting. She has no one to come to her rescue,now, which was a lot my fault to begin with. I guess time will tell. Thanks for letting me get this off my shoulders!

[madisgram]

family relationships can be most challenging. i feel a note of sadness in your post. i have a cousin who has broken off all ties with the family due to paranoia. (over 10 years) we sadly miss her and wish she would get help but know we are powerless to change her or the situation. hopefully your daughter may have a change of heart and if so you can be there for her then.