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Jan 06, 2009, 05:53 PM
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I'm a new here and my name is Anne. May i ask you something is it normal that I am retire / i lost interest already in making friends? I think that i can't stand being with people but I want to make friends but i dont know how. Now I'm alone and lonely..
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Jan 07, 2009, 04:11 PM
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I know the feeling. I have a real love/hate relationship with people because I've been burned so many times. Have you tried church or meetup.com? Meetup is a social networking site that features clubs you can join in your area based upon your interests. I go to a self esteem one now&it's pretty good. Otherwise I'd say make some more virtual friends until you're a little more comfortable in the waters of trying to make friends. Also, if there are community centers in your area for seniors-that might be a good place to go&meet people-I think you said you were retired. Best of luck&don't be scared, we all need friends.
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Jan 07, 2009, 04:36 PM
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Hi, Lost-soul,
I am much like you, though I am still working. I find that I prefer to stay in my home alone when not attending to the demands of my teaching job. I have a few real-life friends, one very good one, but the others are just coworkers. The coworkers, females, invite me all the time to join them in dinners, movie outings, but I decline. They're nice women, but I find when I DO join them, I'm antsy to get home alone! I like Skymonk's suggestion about investigating Meetup.com. I would enjoy a book discussion group, as well as other subject-oriented groups who meet to discuss things like history, film, the Arts, etc. I think I'll investigate this Meetup thing myself. I must admit, I do look forward each evening to coming home and relating to my friends here on PC. This is a unique place, where many wonderful people visit. Update: I did go to Meetup.com, and the only groups within 100 miles of me were two: a mom's daycare gathering group, and a pagan group. Neither sound like my cup of tea. Patty |
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Jan 09, 2009, 02:23 AM
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Get a dog- thats what my Grandfather always told me. Damn if he's not right.
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Jan 09, 2009, 02:28 AM
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Jan 12, 2009, 12:30 AM
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You know...this is me and today I'm feeling so alone and isolated. Yesterday I actually got up and went over to my best friends house....I haven't done that in years. Of course she was not home. So what did I do. I went to the Borders Bookstore and got a couple of magazines and a coffee and sat and listed to some music.
My dear friend showed up and we talked... It felt like an out of body experience! TJ
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Jan 13, 2009, 12:48 PM
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welcome to pc, anne.
 you''ll find lots of friends here i think!!! i'm not sure if you meant that are retired or just tired of trying to make friends and are younger. here are some things that may help you (i liked the suggestions you already got, btw):join a group of something you're interested in like a bowling league, hiking, etc like already said, try to do some volunteer work. it may open some doors for you when you're not even expecting it. go to places that you have some interest in..like i love reading and the arts, so it's barnes and noble for me. made some good friends there. take a class at a school in a subject that interests you. most people there will have similar interests and that's a good jumping off place to make friends that way. why do you think "you don't know to to make friends"? can you elaborate?
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Jan 13, 2009, 04:21 PM
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thank you guys for your advice. actually i'm a new here in this country, but i' little bit long living here. i don't have a lot of friends because I'm shy and i think i'm not good in comprehending what other people say. i was frustrated this mroning because my other classmate has told to my other classmate that i'm dumb and i said "i heard that". and they said am mean. actually she does not have the rights to say that because its not my fault that it is not my first language. i mean its hard if you can't understand sometimes you don't know what they are saying, but i understand what she said that i'm pretty dumb. now i dont want to talk to her and i think she's bad.
am i too sensitive or hot tempered?am i mean? how can i deal this maybe because i have bad attitude that is why people dont want me. i am also a quite girl, so maybe they think i'm a boring person. when i say i a'm retired that is mean i am totally lost in making friends. i dont know what does it mean friends. i dont know how to deal with them or keep them. bye for now. thanks. |
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Jan 15, 2009, 04:42 PM
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hi madisgram...
bye the way may i ask you how to add people and reply to their message when i am viewing them?thanks a lot...
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Jan 15, 2009, 06:23 PM
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 ,how are you?sorry for the late reply, well the way i say i'm retired already is if i am lost of interest or like you know mental retarted in making friends.  ...well i just find out also that i'm so quite because i dont know how to talk and the people around me think that i am so stupid so i dont talk because i dont know the topic...or maybe i'm retarded already at the young age......i just dont know...all i do is always posive to myself...btw take care of yourself
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Jan 17, 2009, 02:31 PM
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