[injaga]

Hi, I never made bad thing to others on purpose in my lifetime. But this is the first time I felt I want to take a revenge. She once was a my only and close friend. I trust her a lot. But she just used me and once she took what she wanted insulted me, treated me with disrespect. She made me suffer a lot.
But now I want to take revenge, and I want to make her life like a hell.
Evil people just cannot live happily after they have done bad things to others life and played on their trust, right? She ruined my trust to people and she is not regretting what she have done to me. Too arrogant isn't it?
I have some black information that I can use. She used to tell me she married her husband without love, just to get rid of her poor difficult life and she is unhappy with his husband. Also one time her husband forced me to go to bed with him (he was drunk). I really wanna make her feel real pain. But i do not have any creative ideas. PLease suggest me some ideas. She deserve it, absolutely.

[MINIME]

Ok I am not sure how to respond to this. I want to respect your feelings of anger. When someone you trust hurts you that deeply its hard not to want to lash out and get revenge. Revenge is like dropping a boulder into a pond. It splashes up and soaks every one around not just the one you want to. In a way it disturbes the balence of things. There are unintended and maybe unseen consequences of revenge. If she has kids then they will be effected..ect
However it sounds like her husband raped you? If this is the case he deserves revenge in the form of jail. I am so sorry that that happened to you that is not ok. You have many options and I would like to tell you all your options. I want to say that its your choice to go any further with this if it was rape but i wanted to tell you i hear what you kinda slipped in there covered in the blanket of anger towards your friend. Sweetheart you are in my thoughts today. Let me know if you want to talk or need a number to talk about what happened to you. Do u know how to PM? Click on my user name and there should be an option. You are heard and i am here ok?

[St. John Wort]

When one takes revenge they must dig two graves; one for the avenged and one for themselves. -Dalai Lama

In time these intense feelings of anger will fade. Revenge can be a viscious circle with no end. I have been there. It can get ugly- a lot uglier than the feelings you are having now.

Get a punching bag- they're the best. You'll feel 100% better.

[StrawberryFieldsss]

Originally Posted by injaga

Hi, I never made bad thing to others on purpose in my lifetime. But this is the first time I felt I want to take a revenge. She once was a my only and close friend. I trust her a lot. But she just used me and once she took what she wanted insulted me, treated me with disrespect. She made me suffer a lot.
But now I want to take revenge, and I want to make her life like a hell.
Evil people just cannot live happily after they have done bad things to others life and played on their trust, right? She ruined my trust to people and she is not regretting what she have done to me. Too arrogant isn't it?
I have some black information that I can use. She used to tell me she married her husband without love, just to get rid of her poor difficult life and she is unhappy with his husband. Also one time her husband forced me to go to bed with him (he was drunk). I really wanna make her feel real pain. But i do not have any creative ideas. PLease suggest me some ideas. She deserve it, absolutely.

I completely and totally understand how you feel, but honestly she sounds miserable already. I can't even tellll you how I understand. I have felt this way toward people, and the only thing that unforgiveness did was take me down with that person. I have taken revenge in my mind, and I only felt ashamed of myself later because it made me just like the other person.

I know you are hurting right now sweetie and I am so sorry this person did something awful to you. One thing that helps me is to let myself feel the hurt and have a good cry.

[skymonk]

I agree with everyone else. Here's some more food for thought-remember that whatever you've done to someone comes back to you threefold. And there's the cosmic law of whatever you do comes back to you. This even includes thoughts believe it or not. To quote another poster's quote "He who angers you controls you." And that is VERY true. If you seek revenge, you just give more power to the person that hurt you&I'm sure you definitely don't want that. I know it's not fair, but what goes around does come around. Hope you get over your feelings of anger and betrayal, unfortunately there are always people willing to hurt you for who knows what reason.

[SeptemberMorn]

I've been vengeful myself but not acting out on it turned out to be the best thing. People that hurt others on purpose or are hurtful by nature eventually wind up digging a lonely, miserable grave for themselves. I have perfect proof of it in the person I felt vengeful towards. I never lifted a finger to do anything against this person and he has paid a thousand times over for what he did to me and others.

The best way to set yourself free from this is to forgive. Yes, forgive. It stops the control that others have over you. When you get yourself to the point that what they did to you is no longer important, then you are truly free. Chances are, they are still living their hurtful lives and will come back to them, like someone else said, threefold, if not more. What you need to concentrate on is healing for yourself.

Rise above the situation and set yourself free from it. If not, you'll end up like them.

[Bellatrix00]

I agree with what everyone else has said. I know you came here looking for creative idea's on the revenge; not lectures. But what everyone is saying really is true.. although, i know it's hard to see it right now. You need to focus on YOU and making you happy. Lets say you do get the perfect revenge and you make this person as miserable as they made you. How will that benefit you? You'll have a moment of feeling satisfied.. but then you go back to living with the hurt that they already caused you anyway. Why waste time making someone elses life worse when you can be using that time to make yours better.

I believe the saying is, "The best revenge is living well"

[Michah]

Hear, hear! I agree with everyone. The universe behaves accordingly...... for years I used to say casually to people, "I wish my sons father would drop dead". And on Xmas day the universe answered me.

My sons father committed suicide on Xmas Day 2008. Now my son has to live with that. I am sure he would have done it eventually and I would not have been able to stop him but........be really careful what you wish for. You just might get it.

[Eggplant On Fire]

I can totally understand where you're coming from. I'm a pretty vengeful person myself and it really is satisfying when someone gets the payback they deserve.

But, as I get older, I'm starting to realize that revenge just isn't worth it. But if you truly want to hurt/piss her off, then go ahead. I think in this situation, the best revenge would be to find someone else who loves you and let her see how much happier you are; with them rather than her. Girls can't stand that crap.

[injaga]

Thank you all, for your opinions. It is very good discussion. I would have never talked to somebody about this in real life.

I still wish the worst to her. But I won't do anything. Not for her, for myself. Also think I was too overwhelmed when I posted that thread. That night I could not sleep, brainstorming.
I have always been good at not achieving important things in my life and now I will let this be one of them.