[rasak44]

Let me start off from the beginning.

I've been friends with this girl since I was in 8th grade so it's been 7-8 years now. We've been on and off kinda because of a relationship on either end or whatever and I've never been really interested in her like she has in me until about 1-2 years ago. I started dating a girl about 4 years ago and she didn't really like the original girl so we stopped talking for a good 2 years. When I did start to talk to her again we just kicked it off and started acting like we were good friends again, well one night she was over late and we were drinking and things led to things and another time a month or so later I'd say. I started getting some feelings for her and her feelings for me were coming back. She started kidding around about how saying oh I should break up with my girlfriend and whatever.

So my girlfriend and I broke it off about 4 months ago, shes away at college and it started getting rough. When I did I really tried to convince myself that we did just break off for this reason or that reason. Really now it was mostly because I think I might be falling in love with my old friend. Now a days though she goes to school full-time(locally) and has a job and her own social life and all that so we never really get the chance to hangout. Also she told me before that she was upset about how long it took me to finally want her the way shes wanted me and how hard shes tried to get over me but couldn't and the fact that I was with someone else broke her heart. And on top of everything since I was in a relationship so long and didn't really go away to college I don't really have alota friend of self confidence to really go meet other people.

I really just don't know how to handle the situation there is alota stuff going on in my own like also that I don't really want to get into but all this is really my main concern at the moment. Thank you for any comments or concerns.

[deliquesce]

hey rasak,
so you think this girl isn't interested in you anymore? maybe you just need to hang out with her more often and see if things progress?

[skymonk]

I agree with the last poster, hang out with her more&get re-acquainted. People can change a lot in just a year, let alone 4. Give her time to decide if she wants to be more than friends, but I would let her know how you feel. I know that may make you feel uncomfortable, but it may also tell her how serious you are about wanting to get back together.