[mdavis5766]

Okay, me and my boyfriend broke up about three weeks ago after being together for six months. During this relationship I met his parents on more than one occasion, became very well acquainted with his mom and sister that we talk over the phone a whole lot. When we broke up, we broke up during a very heated argument, due to a so-called friend of mine who saw him out with a few of his friends and she claimed he had his arm around the girl he was with, she says she didn't get a good look at the girl but she looked too light to be me. But at the time I was not thinking because I was already angry about other things, called him up and went off on him about it, but after the fact I was like "Keke you made a stupid move." Months before this I was having insecurities and trust issues thinking that when he was out with his friend he was with another girl, because his friend was still single at the time and was running around with various girls. So when we argued about me stressing out about other things going on in my life, the insecurities and issues of trust would come out, we would break up and be back together a few hours later, after a while the insecurities and trust issues started to fade away because I knew he was a good boyfriend. We have a very long history with each other, we have been friends for 3 1/2 years and dated on and off for two years then got back together for six months. The day we broke up, he says he "tried" to feel the same way about me, which is love me. I love him but I was not in love with him and it took me five months to even feel that way. It sucks that he moved in with me, because the same day we broke up, we had the discussion not to bring another female over out of respect, but that same night he brought the girl whom he is now dating over that night, we got into a physical fight and he took her home. Three days later he brought her over, they had sex and then claimed they were in love with each other after onlya week, she's 18, he's and I'm 22. I don't know if he's doing this to get under my skin because he knows I still have feelings for him, or because I told him whenever he would leave me home alone for hours and hours me and a co-worker of mine were hanging out, I mean he knew about the guy, but he didn't know he was coming over to sit with me when he wasn't there, and I would lie and tell him i was leaving with my friend when I was leaving with the guy. I told him this a few days after we broke up, but me and the guy never looked at each other in that light, the guy is engaged and we never hung out alone his finacee would be with him and we all had a good time. So I don't know what my ex's motives are. Can someone tell me please? I'm tired of being confused. Thanks!!

[ncguynva]

Well he brought another woman over....and slept with her at the same place that you two live in? IMO sounds like he has moved on.....I say dont pay him attention.
The one who cares less, has the most power......

[mdavis5766]

Originally Posted by ncguynva

Well he brought another woman over....and slept with her at the same place that you two live in? IMO sounds like he has moved on.....I say dont pay him attention.
The one who cares less, has the most power......

Yeah that's true. I had another guy over last night and his whole attitude today was crappy towards me, and I just though to myself "why are you mad at me when you have a girlfriend." Plus he's bi-polar

[JHarmon]

I was in a relationship that ended the same way, and I think that if he is truely remorseful and he comes back basically begging and pleading on his knees you should take him back, but if he has moved on with another girl then he is just an ***** and you should do everything in your power to make his life h#**. I don't like to see the women i love in pain, but it seems like your ex is the complete opposite. my suggestion is to make him suffer like he made you suffer. Get creative...

[mdavis5766]

Originally Posted by JHarmon

I was in a relationship that ended the same way, and I think that if he is truely remorseful and he comes back basically begging and pleading on his knees you should take him back, but if he has moved on with another girl then he is just an ***** and you should do everything in your power to make his life h#**. I don't like to see the women i love in pain, but it seems like your ex is the complete opposite. my suggestion is to make him suffer like he made you suffer. Get creative...

Well I think him seeing another guy over here yesterday made him feel the same way I've been feeling about this other girl being over here. I shall continue to bring the guy over here to show him that he's not the only one that has "moved on." But thank you for your opinion, my cousin told me that if he does come back, that I need to make him work for it, to see if he's really worthy.