[stupified1313]

So Im really not sure where to start.. First problem is my mother, she is not mindful of what she says to people and easily offends. She thinks nobody likes her and everyone in the world has done her wrong. She is such the victim. Ive tried talking to her giving her positive afirmations kudos and the best advice I can possibly give. And of course the constant reminder that she is LOVED. I want to talk to her honestly and frankly but she tends to hear what she wants and twist it into something ugly and hurtful. She is seeing a p doc and he is also acting as a therapist. He also tells her she has been treated like a door mat, and that she is ignorant (uneducated). That is all she heard him say Im sure he said more than that.. From what I understand he has not done a proper psych eval and she is soooo depressed and unstable. She has made mention of not wanting to be here anymore I dont know if she has a plan and Im worried. She disagrees with any positives given to her and see's only the negatives.. ugh... She cannot let go of anything that has happened in the past. I know acceptance is difficult and seeing any positives in that state of mind is also difficult as I myself have been there. Thanks in advance to any advice and suggestions you all may have to offer..

[sabby]

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It's so hard to see a loved one so negative and down on herself and life. No matter how hard you try to instill the good and positive, she will always negate it. She may be highly depressed and what you hear is the depression talking.

Is it possible to get her into therapy or to have her meds checked by another pdoc? Maybe you can offer to go with her if she is scared or nervous. Sometimes it's a matter of hit or miss on the meds before you find one that works well.

I wish you both well and I hope you can find some more help for your mom.


sabby

[Capp]

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This is such a painful situation for you to be in...
Please remember, though, to take care of yourself first. You have to be your first priority.

I think sabby made a good suggestion about seeking a second opinion. This pdoc may not be the right one for her.
You would most likely have to be careful about the way you pose it to her. She may take it as criticism.
Are you authorized to speak to her pdoc? Your mother would have signed papers to have someone designated as a contact.
A patient/client has to have someone with whom the physician can talk with in an emergency. This isn't an emergency, but it would give you access to talking to her pdoc about what is currently going on.
The pdoc has no idea what is happening outside of what she is saying.

I can only imagine the strain this has put on you. Again, please take care of yourself. Are you in therapy and able to talk about it?

Keep posting and let us know how you are doing, ok?
We Care

Cap

[stupified1313]

Thank you for all the suggestions I have tried calling her p doc and he will not return my phone calls..So im going to ask her if I can go to her next appt.. And yes im in therapy and on meds myself thanks. I promise I will take care of me as well..