[darkangel1210]

Dear all, i just wanna take little time of yours to read my story,first i want to tell ur guys how i find out this site, actually today i was to sad and feel hopeless, i tyeped what i should do with relationship in google. so this site come to my list.i am so happy to find such a place to share my story and meet some new friends to get through this bad times.i am from china, 28 years now, i am having a so complicated realtionship right now and borthered me a lot. i met my hubby two years ago, and he proposed me after he met me one month, he is muslim from iran ,and we got married in mosque, and i went to him country to see his parents ,everything is going well, but when we want to go for official registed in government in china, they need him to apply single certificate ,so he went to iran to get that and when he back to china he told me he lost that paper in airport,i couldnt believe at first, i force him to tell me truth, final he told me he cant get that paper coz he had wife already in iran, and i saw his wife even when i was in iran ,but he introduced her as a sister. i didnt doubt coz i trust him and for language difference as well.i couldnt communicate with his family clearly.i was so angry but i have already fall in love with him, and he is really good heart man beside he cheat me on this, i know it is such a big lie. but i still forgive him and accept as a second wife in muslim way, and i join islam as well, i became a practice moslem and pray 5 times a day. but his most time in iran, coz he had two young kids and he doenst want his family to doubt him ,so he uauslly 3 month came to china once for staying one month. i feel lonely most of time and i dont have too many friends. and i hide my story i pretend to be happy always. but now my parents push me to show them our marriage certificate coz they start doubt and my dad worried me so much ,he think it is not a good way to live apart two country , asian culture is so traditional and parentes care kids personal things so much, i worried my dad health, he couldnt happy coz of me ,one day i dont have normal stable life, one day he cant be happy.i dont know how to do, my hubby care and love me a lot, he is good man though he cheated me ,one side i want my parents happy. what i should do????????????????i feel so hopeless. everyday seem end of the world, i couldnt happy anymore!

[gimmeice]

Hello darkangel1210, it's nice to meet you. I am glad that you found us here, this is a great place to meet new friends and find support.
The best advice I have is to do what makes you happiest, your happiness and well being is very important.
Is there anyway that you can see a therapist? Maybe you could really talk about this situation in therapy and decide what is best for you.
I hope to see you around, if you have any questions feel free to private message any community liaison or moderator, here is a link to a list of forum leaders.
http://forums.psychcentral.com/showgroups.php

[madisgram]

hi dark angel and welcome to pc!!! i'm glad you found us. it's a warm caring community.
as for your situation this is just my opinion, if a man can tell such a lie, he will lie again. he has not been truthful to you from the start. why do you feel you can trust him now? he has also lied to his first wife by engaging in a relationship with you.
you are not living as man and wife. that's because he already has a wife....and children. his first committment is to them. what type of life do u feel he can offer you other than the lonely life you have now? what if you all have children together? do u want your child to be brought up with a "sometime visit" father?
i think you have a lot of decisions to make for your future life. you deserve more than a part-time husband. marriage is a committment of both persons, not just one. i wish you well and hope things will work out for you.