[myoasis89]

I know my mom probably means well...but I think she goes overboard sometimes. I'm trying to figure out who i am and I hate being confined and told what to do all the time. On facebook, there was a chainletter going around...if you get tagged you write 25 things about yourself. lots of my friends got tagged more than once and I was so excited that I got tagged once. I quickly sat down to work and wrote 25 things about myself. My mom, of course, is on my facebook as well and saw this. She quickly informed me that doing this could hurt me and I shouldn't write down personal things about myself because people might see this information. I got one comment on my page, someone commented that I should be a writer. I was so ecstatic that someone would write something like that about me. My mom didn't even mention that when she talked to me. She didn't even discuss anything of what I wrote. I just want people to get to know me...and I want to be free. My mom is always trying to make life harder than is should be. She's always finding the down side. Can't she just live a little. It's no wonder she has no friends. she judges all her friends on facebook...saying "how dumb can they be for putting so much information on their facebook"...and I'm like...uggh...I dunno...I know it's such a little insignificant thing...but can't she just get to know me and enjoy me for what I am...am her daughter for geeze sakes......I just want friends and I want to be normal...I have no family...just my parents...

[guitargirl]

Originally Posted by myoasis89

I know my mom probably means well...but I think she goes overboard sometimes. I'm trying to figure out who i am and I hate being confined and told what to do all the time. On facebook, there was a chainletter going around...if you get tagged you write 25 things about yourself. lots of my friends got tagged more than once and I was so excited that I got tagged once. I quickly sat down to work and wrote 25 things about myself. My mom, of course, is on my facebook as well and saw this. She quickly informed me that doing this could hurt me and I shouldn't write down personal things about myself because people might see this information. I got one comment on my page, someone commented that I should be a writer. I was so ecstatic that someone would write something like that about me. My mom didn't even mention that when she talked to me. She didn't even discuss anything of what I wrote. I just want people to get to know me...and I want to be free. My mom is always trying to make life harder than is should be. She's always finding the down side. Can't she just live a little. It's no wonder she has no friends. she judges all her friends on facebook...saying "how dumb can they be for putting so much information on their facebook"...and I'm like...uggh...I dunno...I know it's such a little insignificant thing...but can't she just get to know me and enjoy me for what I am...am her daughter for geeze sakes......I just want friends and I want to be normal...I have no family...just my parents...

Hi, I know that moms can be a drag sometimes but listen to her. She cares more about you than anyone in the world, it sounds like. She is right and anything you put on Facebook, info, pictures, videos, belongs to Facebook and in the agreement they have with members is that the information is theirs to use at their discretion, FROM NOW ON. You really need to be careful. You do not know who you are communicating with. Your mom wants you to be safe. I dont know how old you are but it sounds like you are very young and are not able to see around corners at what could become dangerous for you. Listen to your mom!!! Take care and be smart!

[turquoisesea]

I understand your frustration. There's a fine line to be drawn between just helping out and being overprotective.

Yes , be careful online. Realize that facebook isn't as secure as it used to be -but the questionairs are normaly ok, or so I've seen.
I wish I had more advice, but you might need to work something out with your mom... I don't know if you live with her ...

just, sending hugs
wish I had some actual advice

[Practice2]

I know how you feel - i used to be like that with my mom .. she was always in my business and it drove me nuts. She always had to ask a million questions about everything and i couldn't stand it - i wanted me freedom to. so i started arguing with her about it and not answering and avoiding her or giving short answers so she'd just stop asking .. now im 22 years old and i feel llike my mom wants nothing to do with me anymore. i'm a senior and college and she couldn't even tell you what my major was i don't think. i feel like i shut her out so she shut me out and now there's no way to reverse it. i don't feel like i could talk to my mom or my dad about anything important they just don't seem to care or have time anymore. suck it up and deal with her - don't make the same mistakes i did.

[Umm_kelly]

Originally Posted by myoasis89

I got one comment on my page, someone commented that I should be a writer. I was so ecstatic that someone would write something like that about me. My mom didn't even mention that when she talked to me. She didn't even discuss anything of what I wrote. I just want people to get to know me...and I want to be free. My mom is always trying to make life harder than is should be.

I've noticed that everyone else has told you to listen to your mom and don't second guess her, she knows best and whatnot. I don't believe that. If the only thing she does is criticize you for your bad decisions and not recognize and appreciate you for the unique person that you are then you aren't being treated very well. I don't care if she's your mom or not. Moms are people too, with their own sets of issues that they have to deal with in their everyday life, and they can't possibly be perfect or know everything. Just because she's trying her best doesn't mean it's the right thing. I'm way past trying to repair my relationship with my mom. It has caused too many tears on my part. But I suggest, if you want to try with your mom, that you talk to her about how you're feeling. Or at least start a conversation about that comment you got about being a writer. Ask her what she thinks about the things you wrote about yourself. I hope this advice helps you.