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Why would a woman, married or unmarried have a need or desire for more than one man at the same time? Could it be sexual variety? Or are there other reasons? I went to this part of the forum because it deals with relationships.
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Hmm, polyamory. There can be different reasons why a woman would want to be with more than one person. Some women believe in polyamory - that it is possible to love or be intimate with multiple partners at a given time. While I believe that people are different, I have never met a women for whom this relationship is easy, even if it is her preferred way of approaching romantic relationships. A woman can also just be attracted to many different people, and this lead to wanting to move from relationship to relationship and occasionally sometimes cheat on her partner.
From experience with friends I've often seen that it is hard for partners of polyamorous women (and men too!) if they are not comfortable with this type of behavoir. I personally have a very monogamous sensibity, it would be hard for me to watch a lover approach a relationship so differently. |
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There are a lot of theories out there on why people want more than one partner at a time, or in succession. Some say we live so much longer now that we aren't biologically built to be with just one person our whole lives, others say those who engage in things like polyamory have a problem, becuase we are meant to be with only one person.
A common misconception is that polyamory is all about the sex. For some people sex with multiple partners is a very big deal, but for the vast majority of polyamorous people, sex just isn’t the main reason for going polyamorous. Me, my system of beliefs, if you will, my faith, the way I am, I could never be that way. I would have a hard time with anyone that did, sorry, but honest, and especially if they tried to push it on me that it's the "right" way to go. I love my wife, and have no desire for anyone else. Monogamy for me is what I need, and what I expect my partner to want and need, and I know she does. |
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I saw a documentary type of show on Discovery, I believe, and they were talking about the differences and similiarities in sexuality between human beings and other mammals.. Something that I found interesting is that supposedly like other mammlas, it's in our nature to want to have multiple sex partners..
Animals go around and mate with another animal, but then they move on to another one.. and another one. They were saying that the idea of spending the rest of your life with one partner is going against how we are "wired." And supposedly, that's why it's so difficult to stay with only one person. Obviously, it's possible, though. I think women do this maybe because they aren't getting what they want sexually from their partner and so they try to find someone else to fulfill their needs. It's the same with men.. that or they get bored with their partner and want some variety. maybe?
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![]() ![]() Also, animals are not rational thinking beings as humans are. I really don't think we as Human Beings can be compared to say a dog, ape, or whatever...Eh, I dunno, just some thoughts. ![]() |
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even monogamous among "lower" animals doesn't really mean monogamous. it means monogamous for one breeding season, typically. if you look at it in terms of evolution we are programmed that way. if we stayed with the same person our entire lives that wouldn't increase our gene pool variety. we're supposed to want several different men because that's survival of the fittest. sorry if you don't believe in evolution, just pointing out an explanation.
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I don't know anything about all of the biological stuff everyone has been talking about, but I know that when I've commited myself to someone I feel physically sick when I think about another person (even someone who I used to have strong feelings for) in a sexual way. I don't know if it's something that I've trained myself to do, or if it's just something that is a part of my biological makeup, but it's weird, and I know I'd never be able to cheat, or be with more than one person at a time.
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