[Umm_kelly]

I've seen it said in a lot of different posts in this forum that people think texting is an impersonal way of communication, and it shouldn't be used for big topics. I don't know why people think that. Sometimes it's really hard for me to articulate myself out loud... two of my best friendships have been made through texting/instant messaging. Sometimes when I try and talk to people I get lost in what I'm trying to say, get way off topic, stutter, and end up not making any sense and completely misrepresenting myself. Texting forces me to get my thoughts out in as few words as possible, and lets me think over what I want to say a little bit. For the big stuff I do prefer to talk to someone in person, but I like to have a list of points I want to make ahead of time so I don't loose track or forget things. For me, texting is the way to go if I don't want to embarrass myself.

[ihateit]

Originally Posted by Umm_kelly

I've seen it said in a lot of different posts in this forum that people think texting is an impersonal way of communication, and it shouldn't be used for big topics. I don't know why people think that. Sometimes it's really hard for me to articulate myself out loud... two of my best friendships have been made through texting/instant messaging. Sometimes when I try and talk to people I get lost in what I'm trying to say, get way off topic, stutter, and end up not making any sense and completely misrepresenting myself. Texting forces me to get my thoughts out in as few words as possible, and lets me think over what I want to say a little bit. For the big stuff I do prefer to talk to someone in person, but I like to have a list of points I want to make ahead of time so I don't loose track or forget things. For me, texting is the way to go if I don't want to embarrass myself.

It can be too impersonal, for me it would depend on the situation, if you were to say, break up with someone, texting it is cold, I mean you're already prolly hurting someone, right? Also, ppl can't tell your emotional state, it's just words...yes you could use words that would help give a clue, but things can be misinterpreted, which is a bad thing.

I often find myslef writing things out or sending email/texts as well though, because like you, I have a hard time articulating, and saying what I really mean. Later I think, dang, I should have said this or that. I have to think it out when I write it, so I usually don't have that, "I should have said..." thing going on. Yet, I know most of the time it's prolly not a good idea to be doing it. If it's not a big deal, not a hurting situation or serious thing where a face-to-face (imho) is required, I don't see a problem with it...but, if it's serious time, no, I don't think it's good to text/email or write to someone.

[Rachie]

I have the same view as you. I have trouble trying to say what i want to say so i find this an easier option in some ways =)