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My husband cannot stand my neighbor's daughter. The kids were painting outside and decided to paint their hands and face....and then my daughter went to go into the house to clean up. My husband is very OCD and was getting very frustrated at the whole paint situation, especially when it came time to allow our daughter in the house to clean up.

He did not want the neighbor's kid to come into our house. She was trying to push her way in....covered with paint on her hands, arms and face.

My husband says, he was blocking her from coming in, telling her repeatedly NO....and she wasn't listening. She then hit her face on our doorknob while trying to push her way in, moved backwards because she was startled and hurt herself....and then she went home - and my husband closed the door.

The child's dad said he saw the whole thing from his window and DH pushed his daughter out of the house yelling "GET OUT" and then she continued to push her way in and that's when my husband was closing the door and thus she hurt her face on the doorknob.

It got quite ugly. The dad ran across the street and started banging our door as hard as he could. He is a big, mean, unstable man who has an alcohol addiction, is very explosive and has other issues as well. My husband refused to open the door but talked to him through the window. He told my husband to never lay a hand on his daughter again or he will get arrested.

This all happened while my neighbor and I were at a store. When we came back, I got my husband's side of the story....and then walked over to my neighbor's house to try to smooth things over.

Both men are ADAMANT about their stories - and they are each calling the other a liar.....My husband called over there to talk to the dad, and it ended up becoming a screaming fest.....NOT good.

The dad was this.close to calling the cops and pressing charges on my husband for assault on a minor....and said that the only reason he didn't was for me and my daughter. He did not want to hurt us. He told me to tell my husband that he is NEVER to talk to his daughter again, or ever call there, step foot on their property, etc. EVER again or he is getting a restraining order against him.

Meantime, my husband is mouthing off at me, insulting the neighbor every which way he can...and standing by his story....He is also building allies in the neighborhood by talking to them about the situation (especially since there were a dozen people - mostly children - outside the dad was banging on our door screaming profanities.

My husband was pressing me to find out whether or not I "backed him up" when I was talking to them.....I told him that I told them his side of the story.....I was not going to call them a liar when I wasn't there! This is causing some problems here, because he's getting support from his "girlfriend" (another neighbor that he's all nicey-nicey to) but not from me.

Today was a day of trying to patch up the relationship with the kids....

I am just too exhausted right now. Last night, when this was all going on, my neighbor's husband (the dad's stepdad) - a medic - took my blood pressure - and it was 180/102...

I have to ask you why you are not supporting your husband ? I would believe my husband if he said that what he i saying is the truth, I would not question it as I know he is not a liar. And that under no circumstance would he shut the door on a childs face as the other dad is saying.

NOT saying that your husband is a menace to society or anything even simlar, but I was talking to my husband about this and he asked me to ask you why did you leave him with two children knowing that it would be stressfull for him ? What if they came in covered in mud ? Would that of not caused him a greater problem ?

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I imagine the truth is somewhere near the middle of what these two men are saying. The thing that makes me question your neighbor's statements is that if I felt that someone hurt my child, I don't care who his wife or child is, I would call the police immediately. Since he did not, I tend to believe that he knows that this was an accident and is upset because his child was hurt.

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When I was a kid in the 70s and 80s, this wouldn't have happened. Kids, back then, got banged up pretty good and everyone knew that playing outside and even at friends' houses may get someone hurt.

Getting hurt "today" is trained into guys like the neighbor to freak out. It's on tv - it's what the main stream media (MSM) wants us to do. They want to make sure nobody gets hurt, dinged or damaged. Well, overprotecting is one thing but not understanding is another.

I wonder if the neighbor actually saw everything that went on, though. The daughter may have said "he yelled get out and hit me with the door" - the dad may have believed her. So, hard to tell what happened there.

Most paints are water-soluable and they wash off things like doors and drips on floors. Your husband has to understand a little bit about chemistry (both paint and people) so that he could have nipped it in the bud then. Instead of coming in the house, get the kids outside, bucket of water with soap in them and you'd have cleaner kids. In fact - when seeing them doing the painting, you have to actually prepare for the cleanup. Now, I would have to guess that he may have not been watching when they were doing that and his defense was to keep "those who are not mine" outside. The other kid maybe went too far trying to push her way in, though. I think he should/would/could have done differently in that situation and made it better by helping the kids cleanup without excluding the other kid. Even though the neighbor didn't have a good relationship with you guys, sounds like it is now done.

We've got a lot of wacky neighbors around me here. But it's more like everyone keeps to themselves rather than getting into skirmishes. I almost wouldn't mind more interaction with neighbors (in a good way).

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Originally Posted by Tishie

I have to ask you why you are not supporting your husband ? I would believe my husband if he said that what he i saying is the truth, I would not question it as I know he is not a liar. And that under no circumstance would he shut the door on a childs face as the other dad is saying.

Unfortunately, I know my husband pretty well and cannot say that he would not do what they are accusing him of.

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Originally Posted by Tishie

NOT saying that your husband is a menace to society or anything even simlar, but I was talking to my husband about this and he asked me to ask you why did you leave him with two children knowing that it would be stressfull for him ? What if they came in covered in mud ? Would that of not caused him a greater problem ?

I told the girls to behave and that if there were any issues, to address it with the one girl's mom - not my husband. I don't blame my husband for not wanting the girl to come in the house...and I know the girl has been known to push her way into homes.....But the trouble here is knowing whether or not he shoved her out the door screaming "GET OUT"....

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My husband, with his OCD and control issues, does not know how to keep his aggression in check. Last night, things went from bad to worse.

I'll try to post more later....