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Mar 12, 2009, 03:56 PM
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Hi Everyone
  I have been talking with this seemingly nice man from an online dating site. He called me frequently and said he would call again. I havent heard anything from him in 3 days nor has he e-mailed me. I feel used and upset. |
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#2
Mar 12, 2009, 04:08 PM
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Ahhh...Zen, this is what I call "Internet etiquette." You sound like someone who would invest herself in getting to know someone (as I have been) only to see them disappear. It's frustrating, and leaves one questioning their judgment, discernment of character of others, etc. If you are intent on meeting someone this way, don't give up. (I've given up, by the way.)
Patty |
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Mar 12, 2009, 05:05 PM
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How do I let go and move on?? This guy was a real charmer and intelligent.
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Mar 12, 2009, 05:53 PM
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Zen, hunny...From my (unfortunate) past experience with hooking up with people like this, you should count your blessings and be glad you didn't!
It is probably true that there are sincere men out there searching for a significant other, whom they will value, and treat with respect. I hope, if you continue to meet people this way, that you meet such a man. From meeting men online for many years, I can tell you that you have to develop the ability of "discernment, " and to accept when you don't hear from them as part of the process. Patty |
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Mar 12, 2009, 06:20 PM
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Most cases I know of men visiting dating and porn sites are married men. Believe nothing of what a guy tells you. And it is unwise to screen people for marriage till you have trust and truth.
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#6
Mar 12, 2009, 06:36 PM
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I guess I am fortunate to have never had to meet this man ..... go out on a date with him, kiss him...etc.
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#7
Mar 13, 2009, 02:13 PM
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I think I am making positive steps towards moving on without this ___ of a man in my life or mind. I have enrolled in a pottery course! To ___ with this guy!
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#8
Mar 13, 2009, 04:16 PM
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Zen, hunny, it IS disturbing to know that you not only exchanged emails, but that he called you on the phone several times. This would disturb anyone if suddenly they should disappear. My gut instinct about this one tells me he was probably contacting more than one woman (you) at the same time. He landed on one with what he considers a prospect. It's a shame you were subjected to this. Since he has your phone number, you very well could hear from him again with some lame excuse. You are going to search deeply as to how you will respond if this happens.
Yes, you are right that you didn't actually meet him in person, kiss him, or whatever would have transpired. My own reaction would be to eliminate this possiblility from his contact with you by putting a block on future emails as well as phone calls. As you said, he's a "charmer." Good for you for enrolling in a class. You may not meet any men there, or you certainly could, but by going out to educational experiences, you are doing a healthy thing. I did the same myself, actually completing my MA in Art. Love Patty |
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Mar 13, 2009, 04:35 PM
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Get off the computer and out of the house. Go meet up with friends and fill your life with all the things you are interested in. Take care of yourself. As soon as your heart begins to smile, and I mean truly smile, the guy you are meant to be with will definitely show up.
Never be hasty and never give up. Pay more attention to the people that you meet FACE TO FACE and not over phone lines. If the dude shows up again out of the blue, simply hang up. You're better than this. 
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#10
Mar 13, 2009, 06:50 PM
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Three day isn't that long..... maybe he is sick or had to go out town on an emergency? - if you are truly concerned why not send him an email and see if everything is alright?
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#11
Mar 13, 2009, 08:14 PM
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I have deleted his contact information so that I am not tempted to contact him.
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#12
Mar 13, 2009, 11:49 PM
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OMG....you are kidding me....you can't let go just talking to somebody for couple of times....have you met him at all?
I've been in a relationship and he dumped me! How should I let that go then? Honestly, you don't know who you are talking to from internet dating....sometimes, they are just jerk who are married....and then they get busy with their wife and kids.....so don't talk to them too much, go and see them quickly and don't get attached.... I know what you are going through....you must be single and you want to have relationship.....I'm the same....but what can we do? take care |
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Mar 14, 2009, 05:01 PM
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#14
Mar 14, 2009, 06:00 PM
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I think what turned him off is that I was honest with him and told him I had bipolar disorder. What a _____ idiot I am. He is a nurse you'd think he would be understanding and educated.
I guess I am destine to be single forever because I have a mental illness. |
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#15
Mar 15, 2009, 10:57 PM
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Zen I think the word in this matter is CAUTION - do that all the way around and you should be fine.
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#16
Mar 16, 2009, 10:33 AM
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But, I suggest get to know a guy first. Find trust and have a good time. Then, if you decide you want to tell him he's seen the real you first. A MH problem should not sway judgment on anyone, although sadly it does sometimes. A MH problem is NOT part of us, remember that. If the guy takes it badly then he's not the guy for you and you'll find someone else. Love and hugs to you Zen 
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