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Jan 29, 2014, 07:13 PM
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It has been 5 mos since my ex and I have
split, and i am trying so very hard to let go. It seems like everytime I feel that have made some progress, I digress all over. I can't get him outta my dreams. I feel like I cannot get him outta my head. I realized that I am just not "there" yet to see anyone else. It's crazy... just when I think the dreams about him are gone; he comes back in them all over again. This has been goin on for 3 mos now. When does it end??? Gotta talk to my T. It's time. I really need to move on, he has. 
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Jan 29, 2014, 07:29 PM
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You can be addicted to a person just like a drug. Withdrawl is painful. Do you have any codependency literature? You could look it up on line and see if this feel like what your feeling. Good luck.
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Jan 30, 2014, 12:45 PM
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I am sorry, not co dependant. I just miss him. I am fine living w/ out him..
just miss him is all.
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Jan 30, 2014, 10:39 PM
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Sometimes it just takes longer than we want it to. Assuming you were together a while, five months doesn't seem that long to me. Good luck!
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Jan 30, 2014, 11:35 PM
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Sometimes, the dreams are all about your subconscious sorting through your stuff. Perhaps, it's a good thing?! You never know.
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Jan 31, 2014, 12:32 AM
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i know how you feel. i dont have an answer to how long it takes wish i did then it wouldnt bother me so much either. wish you luck and happiness
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How I long to be up rather than down, the eternal sorrow that I only escape for short periods. This must be how Persephone felt. "Sleep. Those little slices of Death. How I loathe them." Edgar Allan Poe Loving yourself must come first from there comes love for everything else. |
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Jan 31, 2014, 12:43 AM
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Been there and doing that.
I recommend a book titled: 'How to Survive the Loss of a Love by Melba Colgrove Ph.D, Harold H. Bloomfield M.D. and Peter McWilliams A quote from the book: "The body, mind and emotions have enormous wisdom. They know how to heal themselves, and the amount of time they will need to do it. Give them what they need to heal. Trust in the process of recovery. You will survive. You will get better. No doubt about it. The healing process has a beginning, a middle and a end. Keep in mind, at the beginning, that there is an end. It's not that far off. You will heal. Nature is on your side and nature is a powerful ally. Tell yourself often, "I am alive. I will survive." You are alive. You will survive". (and I suggest you sing that song alot it's fun! lol). The book is an easy read in an informing an poetic way. By the way I'm here for you as well. GOOD Luck! p.s. Read in the Bible Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 |
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Jan 31, 2014, 01:43 PM
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Thx for all ur feedback everyone. will look into that book, NNaturally.
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Jan 31, 2014, 04:20 PM
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It has been 10 years (alone) since the divorce;; I still suffer, because he has someone and I am alone (he abused me for 31 years); guess it takes as long as it takes.
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Jan 31, 2014, 06:53 PM
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any time I ever break up with anyone its hard to fully seperate myself fully. I will have dreams about those people for qoute a while even years down the road.
so I know what you mean.
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Dx:OCD, AD/HD-C and ADD kinda both, General Anxiety Disorder, Separation Anxiety Disorder,Abandonment Anxiety, Cycothymic disorder, or mixed bipolar, Border Line Personality Disorder,Histonic Personality Disorder, Dependent Personality disorder, eating disorder ]Rx:Lamotrigine 25mg twice a day for my mood stablizer as well as I am on Escitalopram 10mg 1 daily, Buspirone 3 times daily 10mgs VT Student, CNA student, working HHA  for my father I think of you everyday
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Jan 31, 2014, 08:17 PM
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Nico: I am so sorry u have endured such abuse.
I hope ur working thru it and healing well.
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#12
Jan 31, 2014, 08:18 PM
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If I could just get him outta my dreams, i would be
able to move on much quicker. I just want peace and to leave him in the past.
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