[myoasis89]

My parents want me to come down for the weekend for Easter...I don't want to go...everytime I come to see them it's great but I never see my friends or do anything for me becuase they want me to be there with them...I also don't go to church anymore, my parents don't know this...and they will force me to go to church...they would kill me if they found out I was not going to mass...they don't know anything about me...or what's going on...how do i tell them i don't want to go to mass...when my brother told them...they freaked at him and verbally forced him to go...they ahd a huge fight over nothing...when he sitlls beleives in a God but he wasn't sure about some things...my brother couldn't ask quesitons about his faith...I want to spend time with friends and get to know myself...

[thelionkinglives]

Originally Posted by myoasis89

My parents want me to come down for the weekend for Easter...I don't want to go...everytime I come to see them it's great but I never see my friends or do anything for me becuase they want me to be there with them...I also don't go to church anymore, my parents don't know this...and they will force me to go to church...they would kill me if they found out I was not going to mass...they don't know anything about me...or what's going on...how do i tell them i don't want to go to mass...when my brother told them...they freaked at him and verbally forced him to go...they ahd a huge fight over nothing...when he sitlls beleives in a God but he wasn't sure about some things...my brother couldn't ask quesitons about his faith...I want to spend time with friends and get to know myself...

Well, I would say it depends on how much of an issue to you.

For me, since it is a holliday weekend, I would grin & bare it since it's just a week end. It may be easier than putting the collatoral damage on your shoulders when you return to school (I'm assuming). I know when I'm taking classes I don't want to deal with extra drama in my life.

Option 2: Is agree to go to mass, but let them know that you are only doing it for them & it's not where your heart is right now. This way you don't feel like your keeping a secret & maybe your parents won't get the panties in a bunch over what you tell them if they feel like you still respect there views enough to go to the mass with them.

Option 3: The nuclear option: If you are a point where you are totally against their religion & don't even feel comfortable with attending mass for that one time...then call them, tell them ahead of time then leave the option up to them if they still think it's a good idea for you to visit.
This put's you in a position of control, while letting them feel as though they are in control. You give them the choice ahead of time of how to handle it, but you aren't subject to having to deal with it, if it won't work & just make everyone miserable...then maybe you can go & just see your friends...

Those are the options I see, it's all up to you which way you feel would be best...

good luck