[Jessika_Smile]

I'm in a bind.

Brief synopsis: I've been dating this guy for 10 months, it's been way too chaotic since day one. I've never had this much stress in my life. I am 6 months pregnant with his son. He is excited, and at times so am I. But the problem is I'm not in love with him.

Reasons being; he throws temper tantrums and his anger issues are out of control (I know, really bad since we're having a child together), he doesn't respect my needs (my needs of space, we are around eachother 24/7 and I don't see that to be healthy), I feel like he's taking control of my life and I'm losing myself. I used to be a really strong person and I feel that I'm not anymore. I also feel we don't have much in common. Like we always listen to "his" music, it drives me crazy. He's a very much, "me me me" type of person and quite needy.

He's not working right now, although he has been trying. But I'm STILL working as a waitress at 6 months pregnant. I'm getting really resentful. He taps into all my resources, I take him to interviews/dr apts, he uses my cell phone/computer, lives at me and my mom's house, I pay for everything. It's like taking care of a kid and I'm getting really sick of it. I've got a lot of my own issues and I see my therapist every other week, so it's really hard to manage my bipolar condition, being six months pregnant, and then to deal with "another" child (my boyfriend). I'm losing myself and my mind, I'm losing everything!

We fight daily, I feel unhappy daily. He has NO WHERE to go. His mom is horrible and basically flopped him in my lap for me to take care of. He has no friends, no family, no job, no nothing; besides me. All this pressure is on me, and it's taken it's toll.

I've tried ending the relationship, tried getting him to move out of me and my mom's house but he just wont leave. He threatens he'd end up going back to alcohol, threatens being homeless, threatens suicide. He's using these mechanisms as a guilt trip on me. And it works. I've taken on the responsibility of caring for him, and it hurts me to think that he has no one else. I know it's not my responsibility, but I hate to see people in a hard place.

I just don't know what to do anymore, I'm unhappy. I just wish he would've respected my space a little more when I would tell him I needed it, because now I feel I've fallen out of love with him. Now my senses of him are just that of pity.

Any advice or encouragement would be greatly appreciated.

Pack his bags, call a lock smith and change the locks, dont let him back in.

If he starts shouting etc at the door call the police.

You have a baby to consider now not just you and you are right you are not responsable for him.

[RonnieVae]

Kick him out. Can't be bothered having to take care of a childlike man while trying to take care of a child. It's wonderful that you'll be having a baby, though. A bright light in a possibly otherwise dark situation. However, be more selective with who you have unprotected sex with next time. Every woman should abide by that, imo.