[marjan]

Isn't it interesting? Now, he's telling me that he thinks I just want him for sex and this is not attractive at all....so, he refuses to have sex with me!!!!
He's telling me he enjoys hanging out with me....argggg....I told him there is nothing left between us....I can't understand it really....relationship between a man and a woman is so challenging....how can I like this guy when he's so serious all the time and he's cranky most of the time...also, find him so unkind to people including me....now, that he finds out I like him for that....he doesn't want it...he wants to have relationship!!!!!
I'm moving on now.....
please don't get me wrong....I wanted to have relationship with him too...but his behaviour was disgusting when I was seeing him not giving me enough attention in public and being mean to me most of the time...also, I'm fed up with all my failure relationship....so....what should I do? I really tried my best with him to work things out....but it seems it doesn't and the only good part is just the sex!!!!

[Junerain]

Refusing to have sex is called MANIPULATION, and people can be granted a no fault divorce if their spouse pulls this on them...

It sounds like this person was mean to you, anyway......

And who wants or needs meanness in their lives? Or accusations?

[marjan]

Originally Posted by Junerain

Refusing to have sex is called MANIPULATION, and people can be granted a no fault divorce if their spouse pulls this on them...

It sounds like this person was mean to you, anyway......

And who wants or needs meanness in their lives? Or accusations?

Yes, he's extremly mean to me...and he's pissed of at me all the time...well...he's out of my life now...but I wanted to share this with people here....it's kinda funny though!!!!

[Toller]

Originally Posted by Junerain

Refusing to have sex is called MANIPULATION, and people can be granted a no fault divorce if their spouse pulls this on them...

It sounds like this person was mean to you, anyway......

And who wants or needs meanness in their lives? Or accusations?

I'm really sorry but am I the only one living on a completely different planet from everyone else??? "Refusing to have sex = Manipulation" So someone who doesn't want sex is doing that only for manipulation and how the hell is it grounds for divorce?? Are you supposed to force people to have sex if they don't want it? Isn't that called something else? Isn't sex something to be done by two (or more, I have an open mind) CONSENTING adults?
Aren't relationships meant to be more than just sex or based solely on sex?
I'm sorry if I have misread your comments or taken them out of context but that is how it looks to me.

I've been used for sex, which I don't mind, but I only mind when they pretend to like me or love me. If they came up front about it right at the beginning and told me it was only sex then fine. No hidden agendas, everybody knows where they stand. Am I just too simple?

Marjan - I'm not directing or questioning any of this to you, I haven't really read all of your posts or contents but it sounds like it wasn't a healthy relationship and probably best you are now out of it and I wish you the best of luck.

[thelionkinglives]

Originally Posted by Toller

I'm really sorry but am I the only one living on a completely different planet from everyone else??? "Refusing to have sex = Manipulation" So someone who doesn't want sex is doing that only for manipulation and how the hell is it grounds for divorce?? Are you supposed to force people to have sex if they don't want it? Isn't that called something else? Isn't sex something to be done by two (or more, I have an open mind) CONSENTING adults?
Aren't relationships meant to be more than just sex or based solely on sex?
I'm sorry if I have misread your comments or taken them out of context but that is how it looks to me.

I've been used for sex, which I don't mind, but I only mind when they pretend to like me or love me. If they came up front about it right at the beginning and told me it was only sex then fine. No hidden agendas, everybody knows where they stand. Am I just too simple?

Marjan - I'm not directing or questioning any of this to you, I haven't really read all of your posts or contents but it sounds like it wasn't a healthy relationship and probably best you are now out of it and I wish you the best of luck.

I think what Junerain means is that if a person makes a long habit of refusing sex with their partner, then yes that is legally in most states grounds for a no fault divorce. You are not required to stay in a marriage with someone who uses sex as manipulation or not at all.

Which as long as a man can use this as equally as a woman then I think the law is fine.