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Apr 23, 2009, 06:04 PM
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My sister I think avoids me. She has found a new friend that she invites everywhere. They go shopping, to the tattoo place and tomarow they are going on a weekend camping trip and to an engine show. I have tried and tried to get my sister to come get me so me can do something together. i have offered to pay for her gas and everything. The last time we were anywhere together, was about 2 years ago and I ended up spending alot of money buying her things. Just like when our mom got sick, mom got $20,000 from her insurance company because of her illmess. My sister would'nt let me go out with her and mom and they always went shopping out to eat, to the salon etc. It seems like the only time she wants to be around me is when I got money. I don't know if it's a jealousy thing or what. When my mom got her money (she also had $40,000 in the bank) my sister and brother got brand new four wheelers for Christmas. I got some CD's. I don't care if they got more than me, it just seems my sister used my mom for her money too. Not that she did'nt love mom it's just she's kind of manipulative. Now the only time she wants to come over is if I got something to share. Like with my mom's estate, it's worth $227,000 and my sister put the whole thing on my shoulders with the lawyers (she waived her right to have to be at court, sign anything and even be responsible for the lawyers fees) but she is quick to tell me she wants my great papaws antique John Deere even though it's supposed to go to my uncle. And it's supposed to be used for matinance on the land. She has argued and argues with me over mom's things and and the dollar worth of the house (she want's to sell it but it's been in our family 8 generations and I want to give it to one of my uncles or grandma). I am so sad by how she's acting. Now I can hardley get her to talk to me on he phone. We used to talk for 2 hours everyday or instant message over myspace but now she always busy with her friend. I wanted her to come over for my birthday dinner on the 4th of April but she wanted to go out with her friend so none of my family showed up for it. Then she got mad because my grandmother took me my husband and my sons out to Cracker Barrel for my birthday. She was mad cause she was'nt invited. She acts as if I did'nt invite her to anything. My grandmother did'nt invite her because we knew she was busy with this friend of hers. She even got mad because my grandma gave me a chocolate rabbit for Easter. I am at my wits end with her.
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Apr 23, 2009, 09:32 PM
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Your sister sounds like she is extreemly selfish. I think you should just stick with the plan of what Mom wanted done with the items your sister is seeking, the John Deere goes to whomever Mom wanted it to. This way you are honoring your Mothers wishes and spirit and it alieviates you from the decision and burden of having to make a decision.
While I understand this is your sister, blood or not, sometimes you just have to cut ties and let people go. It is not always the easiest thing to do but sometimes the best form of self preservation as it sounds like she is causing you a lot of inner turmoil. When she is ready to be responsible in all matters, stop being so selfish and seeks you out then you can allow as much as you are willing to accept. I think once you stop worrying about her and let her go you will find you really don't miss the person she is being at the moment and you will be lighter for having let the burden go. Good luck and be strong. |
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Apr 24, 2009, 06:07 PM
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Hey,
God this sounds familiar. My sister and I are having a few issues too. My sister and I are Identical Twins. For 24 years we have lived in each-other's pockets. I have a best friend who my sis likes. But she is always humfing and haying as i spend loads of time with her. But my sis has a boyfriend and i dont. I didn't complain when all she could talk about was him and it was Stuart this and Stuart that. I was jealous but i kept it together as i did not want to hurt her feelings as this is a positive step for her. I find she begrudges my mate as she is really jealous as i would actually spend my time with my mate than her as she is never here. Also i am moving out of the family home and into my own wee flat with a work colleague. I am dying to move out as its getting too much in the house. Anyways my sis can not even be happy for me. My aunt said that we will miss eachother quite badly to start with. My sis and I both said "Nope" I think it will be fun to begin with then i may start to think how much we were relying on eachother. Anyways just thought i would add my wee words of thoughts as i am kinda in a similar situation |
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Apr 25, 2009, 10:51 AM
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Apr 25, 2009, 02:27 PM
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Thanks Thunderbear,
Yes moving day is getting close heehee!! Nah i think my sis and i will be ok she just gets to me at times as its like she can not be happy for me. So in other words Sisters are gonna be like this at times? I am sorry your sis can not be happy for you in any ways at all |
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