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Old Apr 27, 2009, 03:18 PM
sunshineinthecity
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I have been dumped out of nowhere by "friends"

On friend running a walking club was freinds and I confided alot
until this weekend when she told me she was going to the walk
of a different day then on the calendar with her friend and she call sometime- i dropped out

then anothe group dumped me - i was always at the night
socials and brough food and tonic- then they said you can'
come to xmas party - and maybe you should another group
because we are just going to have lunches- I don't want
to go even if I could

So sad and beaten- what should Ido

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Old Apr 27, 2009, 04:37 PM
coralproper coralproper is offline
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become independent......then they will wish they followed you
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Old Apr 27, 2009, 04:43 PM
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become independent......then they will wish they followed you
I agree with coralproper....you got to do stuff that you like and then you meet more interesting people and then these group of people want to be with you...then it's your choice to accept them as a friend or not!
This has happened to me before, and then when they saw me happy going on my own life and having very good friends around me, they tried their best to get back to me...but I didn't....
These are not true friends...true friends won't do such a thing!
take care of yourself
Marjan
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Old Apr 27, 2009, 07:03 PM
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Hi Sunshine

First, I would try not to take any of this personally. Most of the time the way people react to us has much more to do with them than it does with us or anything we do. So try to remember they are sick people with their own problems. How they act around you really is more about them than it is about you.

Real friends would talk to you about any problems in your relationship. They would make the effort to communicate with you if something you were doing was bothering them.

I wouldn't give these people a second thought. Take time out to feel better about yourself, to heal, if that's needed. Other wise, just keep on looking for groups and friends who are kind, supportive and thoughtful towards you. When you find you are getting that from someone try to be reciprocal, unless you really do not like them. Don't be a phony. Look for real friendship and give real friendship, when you find it's happening naturally in a two way street, you have a true friend. That takes time and effort. There will be more unsuccessful attempts than successful ones. But when a real friend comes along - that's a keeper, it's rare, so enjoy it when it happens, but until then consider it part of a process of getting to know people. Don't take things personally and remember that even in every failed friendship, you learn something about yourself or other people.
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I'd rather have a visit, note or pretty picture
than an "I'll say a prayer" or a "god bless you."
Doesn't make me feel better, no meaning to me for sure.
Can't stop you from praying and blessing me,
and if that makes you feel better feel free.
But keep it to yourself please, don't tell me.
And let's all respect each other's feelings.
With kindness, support and "sweet dreamings."
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Old Apr 29, 2009, 07:43 AM
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Thank you everyone
I think I will take time out for awhile
Friendship is a very special thing
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