[koalabb123456]

I feel so sad tonight. I can't stop thinking about my therapist. After every session with her, i keep thinking about her, wondering how she is doing, and wanting to be with her all the time. I want to cuddle with her, to have her to hold me, to nurture me. I told her i am very afraid of falling for her. She said it is so quick that i developed feeling for her. We only met for like 4 times. But now i can't stop thinking about holding her. I think about her so much that i can't sleep and become very depressed. I feel like i am losing my mind over her. I don't know what to do, should i talk to her about it?

[geez]

Originally Posted by koalabb123456

I feel so sad tonight. I can't stop thinking about my therapist. After every session with her, i keep thinking about her, wondering how she is doing, and wanting to be with her all the time. I want to cuddle with her, to have her to hold me, to nurture me. I told her i am very afraid of falling for her. She said it is so quick that i developed feeling for her. We only met for like 4 times. But now i can't stop thinking about holding her. I think about her so much that i can't sleep and become very depressed. I feel like i am losing my mind over her. I don't know what to do, should i talk to her about it?

(((koalabb))) I would definitely talk to her about it. She should be trained to handle tansferrence. Believe it or not this is a path to learn more about yourself. I know what you are going through is difficult right now. Wishing you peace

[koalabb123456]

Originally Posted by geez

(((koalabb))) I would definitely talk to her about it. She should be trained to handle tansferrence. Believe it or not this is a path to learn more about yourself. I know what you are going through is difficult right now. Wishing you peace

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[Paraclete]

Kaolabb, provided you have a good and ethical therapist, then let yourself feel all these feelings, don't try to resist them, let them come. Embrace them if you can. They can be intense and painful, and possibly really scary... but they exist for a reason and as cliche as it sounds, they can lead you to a tremendous amount of healing.
I wish you all the best... post here if it gets a bit much... many on this forum have been and are going through this process or similar.

Hang in there, and try to be as open with your T about what's going on for you as you possibly can. As hard as it feels, its actualy a very positive thing.

[AeAnneAe]

Kaolabb, like the others say, these feelings are important and can lead to healing if you can bear them and if your T is skilled and ethical.

I wonder if starting therapy has awakened a deep need for love, attention etc. that you 'fantasize' about having with your T. But only you and your T can work out what it is really about.

[Broom Hilda]

Koalabb, Do what feels right to you, of course-- but if I had my therapy to do over again I would have told my T at the start about the feelings. I wish I would have told him before the attachment got completely out of control. Now I need him. Now I'm so protective of the relationship I wouldn't dare reveal something (like sexual feelings) that might change it. If it had been out in the open in the beginning, I wonder if I'd be further along in my therapy than I am now. I seem to be more concerned with making sure my T likes me than helping myself. And I can't talk about it now.
I didn't expect these feelings and certainly never knew how intense and all consuming they could become. If I had I would have done everything to make sure it didn't get to this level. Or at least I'd have professional help in riding it out. I wish you all the best and please keep us posted!

[Whataguy7]

you thoughts seem to be common. I have this problem also but I from day one when she walked throught the door I felt this was someone that I thought was attractive. But I dealt with my real problem for over 55 + sessoins before I realized that this woman ( therapist )I am really feeling for. she i swet, good looking and I think she has something for me. YOu acan tell I am sure with thee talks that go on. I don't know if this will go on but the therapist will have to sort through things with you.I do feel that your feelings are showing way too soon( not that you should be hitting on her but I would give it a much longer time before you let your therapist in on this. I can only think that it will lead to losing the therapist. Way too soon) YOu share intimate details but you should work on things you are actually there for first. Pushing the situation will probably push her to sending you to another therapist time heals all wounds But good luck