[ineedhelp7]

I'm seeing a T and I really like her, probably too much. My T is a specialist in a certain area (don't want to give identifiable info away), so we don't talk about too many deep feelings, it is more help with a particular problem I have.

She is really pretty and has a fantastic personality, she is probably my dream g/f if I could dream one up. I'm not dumb enough to think anything would ever come of it though, there is more chance of aliens landing or me flying to the moon!

The problem is I think about her a lot and keep looking at pics of her but not in a sexual way, I just really like her. I hate so many things in my life right now, she is about the only good thing in it. That really depresses me because I now feel that by seeing her I have added a pile of anxiety and stress that I wouldn't have if I didn't see her.

I have thought about ending the sessions but then I think I would become even more depressed than I feel right now.

[allme]

Hi and welcome to PC!

First of all, these feelings you have are perfectly normal in a therapeutic relationship.... its nothing to feel bad about

I agree that ending sessions is not a good idea. What is a good idea is to discuss these feelings with her. Dont feel awkward about it... if she is any good she will know how to handle it and help you deal with your feelings.

Let us know how you get on and good luck!

[mixedup_emotions]

I can totally relate to this....

There is no other relationship that's like the therapeutic relationship, and intense feelings are incredibly common. And it's so difficult to deal with the feelings that come from it being a doctor/client relationship...I too have wished, at times, that I never started therapy in the first place. But I also know that it has been good for me in so many ways...

Know that you are not alone.

From what I've heard, expressing your feelings in therapy can lead to a greater understanding of the root of issues and will help you recognize what your needs are, what is driving them, etc. That, in itself, is an extremely difficult thing to do.

My T encourages me to "be curious" about my feelings....easier said than done.

[sugahorse1]

I hear you - down to a T. I am having the same thoughts and questions (Except that to me T is not someone I am physically attracted to, but the thought of someone caring; that's enough for me to feel some form of attraction)

[ineedhelp7]

I'm seeing my T on Monday so now I'm happy again this weekend, I can't wait to see her again, it has been 3 weeks since the last session.
I have huge respect for her, as I said previously it isn't a sexual thing although she is absolutely stunning in both looks and more importantly personality. I just want to be in her company and even just getting an email from her makes me really happy, perhaps that is a symptom of my current life circumstances right now. She is the only T in her area of expertise that I have ever got on with, she is also excellent at what she does, I can't go into details because it might indicate who I she is if she was ever to stumble upon this forum.

I'm having issues with prescription drugs at the moment and severe insomnia so that doesn't help to keep a balanced view of things. Visiting my T has made me realise just how unhappy I am in my current relationship, although I have known that for a while but being living in denial.

I have to go 4 weeks after this Monday's session, that will be really difficult for me, Christmas is a real pain in the ***!